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anonymous
writes:i broke up with my boyfriend a while ago. we keep getting together and breaking up and i thought i loved him but he hurt me a lot and all my friends now hate him for making me cry. i thought i was over him and had no feelings but recently i saw a new picture of him and i felt really hot and turned red, and when i got a text from him my heart started beating really really fast and i cant stop thinking about him. this has never happened before..does anyone know what’s going on?
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reader, nat :) +, writes (16 July 2008):
the thing is, no matter how much he's hurt you and how much time has moved on, you loved him & he will always be there niggling away at the back of your mind! Maybe instead of going back to him, because he will probs only do the same again, you should go and look for someone new! I know it's hard and everything but just try to have as little contact with him as you can because then you will slowly learn to live without him in your life at all!
Gook luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2008): Attachment to a boyfriend/girlfriend doesn't just switch off as soon as you decide the relationship isn't good for you anymore.
This is a BIG point about relationships. You'll save yourself a lot of grief in your life if you heed this experience and learn from it right now.
You don't just have feelings for who is good for you. If you give yourself enough time & opportunity to get attached to a bad guy, then you'll be attached to a bad guy whether you still want to be in a relationship with him or not.
Romantic attachment is an extremely powerful weapon. You have to learn to be very careful who you point it at. If you just point your attachment at anyone who seems attractive regardless of whether they're good for you or not, you'll end up hurting yourself and messing up your life VERY badly.
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