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writes:I'm 31 and have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. We have sex on the regular but I get so wet, that it's turning me off and making me NOT want to have sex with him. I'm wet, all the time, even when I'm not horny and just walking through Walmart. Right now, as I type this, my vagina is overly lubricated and it's really starting to irritate me. I don't need a towel but my panties are so wet that if I touch them I have a moist fingertip.Now, I've always had a moist vagina but for some reason I seem to be getting wetter and wetter as time goes by. The problem with this is that sometimes during sex I can't even feel my boyfriend (who is well endowed) because my who-nanny is so damn wet. It ends up turning me off 'cause I can't feel him in me and I can't imagine he's liking it either. I'm wetter now, and am more often, than I was last year. Sometimes I go to the bathroom and wipe myself before we have sex hoping it'll dry me up some but it doesn't work. The only time, anymore, I seem to get a little dry is if we smoke weed, and that's a rare occasion for me.When he's actually inside of me it's just so slippery and sometimes makes a "swoosh" sound as he's thrusting because it's so wet. We change positions and mix it up but none of that works. The wetness remains the same. I'm starting to really dread sex because of this. Now, every time he reaches down to touch me I think to myself; "great, he's going to feel how wet I already am and won't want to have sex". I know this might sound funny and stupid to some of you but this is becoming a problem for me. I don't know what to do. He's never complained but he has acknowledged that is does get super wet. He makes jokes about it which shows me he doesn't think it's a big deal, but it is to ME.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (8 September 2013):
 See your doctor. This is becoming a problem for you, and there is no reason why you shouldn't try out your options here. See your doctor/gynecologist and explain the situation, hear what can be done to make your problem easier/go away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2013): Do you get wet for no reason? Or are you aroused all the time and you get wet because of it?
There is a one in a million possibility that there is something wrong with your body. Like there is too much pressure on one of your nerves, or you have a hormone disorder. But most probably this is just how your body works.
At least you are not one of those dry women who make their men feel incapable or unwanted.
If your boyfriend doesn't complain, don't make a big deal out of it. You can try positions to feel him better. Believe me you don't want too much friction in there. Ask dry women or their partners, they'll tell you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2013): Have you been getting pap smears regularly?
You need to see a doctor, for two reasons: (a) to see if something can be done or prescribed to mitigate this constant wetness and improve your quality of life, and (b) to rule out any serious underlying causes.
As Tisha-1 said, the lubricating moisture in your cervix is secreted by glands that line the cervix. Sometimes glands become over-active for serious reasons, such as when a mass is pressing on them. Therefore, you should talk to your doctor to rule out the possibility of cervical or ovarian cancer.
I'm not trying to scare you -- let me emphasize that those causes are rare ones. Hormonal or bacterial or pH imbalances would be much more common reasons, as others have pointed out. However, you still need to see a doctor to discuss your situation and rule out serious conditions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2013): Do you notice a difference at different times in your cycle?
The fews days before you ovulate (so probably between Day 12 - Day 18, roughly) should be the wettest.
If it's throughout your entire cycle...I agree that a diaphragm could help!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (7 September 2013):
 Consult your OB/GYN.
An excess of vaginal lubrication may be due , either simply to an increase in the production of baginal lactic acid, which can be asessed measuring your vaginal Ph , and if this is the case , easily rebalanced with apposite remedies in pills or creams. Or, it may depend from hormonal imbalances / a malfunctioning thyroid and metabolism.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2013): See a doctor, you might need some hormone pills or similar. I agree this is not normal. I mean sometimes I get wet during the day too when I am not horny or anything and it is irritating. If it happened often I would certainly want to see a doctor about it.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (7 September 2013):
 Glands in your cervix produce the secretions you describe, though there may be another condition that is causing your excessive discharge.
If it's changed in the past year and is causing you this much distress, go to your gynecologist to try to find a solution.
You could try wearing a diaphragm or cervical cap which could trap the secretions for a few hours; again, any solutions should be cleared with your gynecologist.
If your boyfriend ejaculates inside you then the discharge could be the semen exiting your body as well. Have you noticed any difference if he uses a condom?
If it's bothering you this much, get to your doctor, and make certain you don't have some other hidden health condition which is causing your cervical glands to over-secrete. Hormonal imbalances, thyroid problems, PCOS were just a few of the conditions that were mentioned in the articles below.
http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/003158.htm
http://infertility.about.com/od/ovulation/f/too_much_cervical_mucus.htm
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/ate/womenshealth/205681.html
http://www.hystersisters.com/vb2/article_451159.htm
It does seem that there is no magic solution to your problem, so do discuss your issue with your gynecologist.
Best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2013): Medication is known to dry out the vagina, try going to your doctor and talking to him about it. Let him know that it is outing a dent in your sex life. Your bf may think ur relax more and into sex than u were a yr ago. He may feel great and successful by ur wetness. If it don't broke don't fix it. But since u so worried try talking with ur doctor there may be medication on the market to help women with excessive wetness.
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