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writes: My first boyfriend and true love just broke up with me. He said he can't stand me, that he hates me. But I love him so much and can't believe this, I'm so hurt right now and desperate. This same man told me a few days ago that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me! I don't know what to do and now I feel like nothing, I feel empty, betrayed, I feel like something MUST be wrong with me and that I didn't do half as wrong to deserve all this hurt! This pain is too real, it's too strong, how can I make it go away, please? My self esteem is totally shattered!
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reader, Tii3RN3Ybbs.  +, writes (8 August 2008):
 Babes,
Its Happend to me , my first love left me too.
it feels as if u have noting to live for again,
but trust me babes,
you'l soon get over it,
u don't need him if he's turned like this,
u can do better, the boy ur with now, must love you to peices,
just give him a chance open up to him like you did to ur first love,
yeah ur not going to ever forget ur first love you'l remember every memorie u had, because i still do.
but maybe its for the best,
you have the boy that loves u for who u are now, don't blow that for that boy that left u .. trust me, everything shuld b okay x
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reader, 19yearoldguru  +, writes (8 August 2008):
HEY MALE READER wow you are sooooooo right, i wouldve writtin the almost exact same thing except mine is more simple and to the point
A) True loves dont say i want to spend the rest of my life with you then two days later say i hate you and break up
B)Its not your fault, you gave him a chance and lets face it he messed up big time, too bad you cant cuss on these forums otherwise i would express my more anger toward this one that you havent described fully
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C)male reader hit it on the dot, your never going to stop hurting like this and yes it does help to vent, even when no one is around, all you can really do is convince yourself that he wasnt worth it
Leonardo De Vici
"Learning is the greatest power of all"
"Love is actually Learning more about someone you like dearly, the more you learn about them the more you love them"
19yearoldguru
"Men are mostly pigs and the good ones are always 25 years or older who actually understand and can open up about how they feel"
"the best man to go out with is, one that still hasnt kissed"
"for every good there is a bad, and for every great there is a worse, for every high there is a low, and for every lie, the worse will show, only one can decide if they are right or not, but can you decide, whats good for you for that flight, dont take it as a last chance, take it as a new expieriance."
"a boyfriend is just a cover for the guy to know, that he has you on a leash."
"no one is perfect"
"dont learn from your mistakes, itll make things hurt more in the end, learn from everyone else's because it saves you the trouble and heartbreak."
"until you are married, dont take things too seriosly because youll just hurt more."
"at the first sign of trouble, work it out, at the second, just get out."
"cheat once, shame on you, cheat twice...wait, i took you back after the first time?"
i know most of these are just, kinda silly but, my point is, just wait, and dont wait for him, make friends and pick the best one, best thing you can do, dont go out on a date because most guys will "front" or just act polite to cheer you up, and make you think he is good, if he is truelly a good guy, and worth your time, then time is exactly what he will give, if he gets impatient then pffft, screw him....
Im still waiting for 9 year later, and she still hasnt come around and i think thats long enough, ive already told her, and if she keeps on insisting on hurting herself, by all means, but im not going to continue to hurt myself watching someone i love just ignore me, its a one way street, and you both have to walk it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2008): Okay first things first do not blame yourself or the pain doesn't go away, second a way to release what evr the feeling is its a hard one to explain its like anger and sadness mixed all into one there is not a word for that feeling you are feeling, so just talk even if no one is around just talk out loud, believe it or not it helps, i used the stars to vent to. If you think that the guy is having problems with anything try to talk to him, guys won't come out and clearly say it, so you may have to dig in to figure it out, don't let it go with out a fight i made that mistake and my first love is now out of my life, it has been 4 years i still miss her. people will tell you jump back in the game right away but don't because you will just think "your not my love" and it just won't be right. I know how you are feeling, so please if you need any one to talk to besides your closest friends you can do so email me at [address blocked]
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