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writes:Let me start by saying - I'm married - but I love attention from attractive men. Recently, I have been text messaging with a man - he sent naughty pictures of himself and he wanted me to send pictures of myself (which I wouldn't). We'd been texting pretty hot-n-heavy for about a month with a couple of drunk calls (from him) thrown in. Now - out of nowhere it's stopped...I suspect he met someone who's available to him...but I miss the attention. I don't want to text him and ask...but what gives?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): I have had a relationship with my girl friend for 10 years, we now have an 11 month old boy. I am 25 years older than her. Recently I discovered sexy texts between her and a couple of guys, one guy I had met in my own house, she had told me he was gay. Anyway, I was really hurt, when I confronted her, she told me that it was all a game that she enjoyed playing and it was almost like creative writing, who could be dirtiest. She assured me that I was her only love, but as I had always said that I found that kind of thing strange, she occasionally did this kind of texting, but she said that it means nothing to her but she enjoys the attention. I have to be honest I find it very difficult to understand, because I feel that most men would react to these kind of explicit sexual chats. She has started to send them to me and I have really enjoyed them, but I keep wondering whether I'm just another bloke on her list. Somebody shed some light on this for me. Can women really be attracted to their partners but carry on over the telephone with other men and not mean it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2007): Hi I just wanted to let you know that I had a two year text fling with somebody other than my boyfriend and it hurt our relationship immensley. I was doing it for attention as I have low self esteem but in the end the other guy wanted more from me, a lot more. I think he wanted marriage thats how far it got. Dont play with people this way as not only did I hurt my patner but my text buddy and truthfully I dont deserve either of them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2007): Hopefully he came to his senses and decided to give up on this "text affair" with you, a married and therefore unavailable woman.
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reader, brokenheartz +, writes (3 July 2007):
 You have a husband. This is unnecessary. Any husband would be extremely upset if he found something like this out. Want attention? Start a website or something. But please don't continue this, i feel very bad for your partner.
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reader, DIE-romantic.  +, writes (3 July 2007):
 Well to be quite honest, a married woman shouldnt be texting other men, isnt it part of the vows to stay faithful? because it can be classed as emotionally cheating, it was abit of fun, he obviously has moved on, so stop and start thinking about your husband. Forget about it.
Harmless little texts now and then of that nature, is bad enough but you say it was heavy and saucy pictures? Your husband does deserve more respect. You are between 36 and 40 also? Surely that is abit irresponsible and immature? Arent you past teenage years yet?
I dont mean to sound harsh, but thats the way i see it hun.
xxx take care.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (3 July 2007):
 You have both done as much as you can together without getting physical. He asked you to send pictures of him and you wouldn't so my guess is he's gone off the boil and found some other girl who he can either be physical with or who will send him the pictures he wants. Besides, you're off limits too. Forget him and concentrate more on your marriage. Start to text your husband with sexy texts. Why don't you send HIM a picture of yourself in sexy underwear, I'm sure it would spice things up for you both.
Eve
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reader, flower girl +, writes (3 July 2007):
 Are you not happy in your marriage then? because myself and probably other people even though it's only texting and calling, would view this as an emotional affair.
If you are not happy then you should discuss it with your husband and try and sort your marriage out because there is obviously something missing for you to chose to do this.
This man knew you were married and was just having a bit of fun, has had the fun he wanted and moved on.
Maybe now you should too and either try and fix whats missing in your marriage or get out of it, your husband deserves more respect.
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2007): It's the nature of things when you are that stage of having a sexual relationship. People in the early stages can walk away without really giving a reason. If you don't want to text him and ask then there is little chance you will know. I'm guessing he probably changed his mind about you and has chosen to be with someone else?
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reader, love-him +, writes (3 July 2007):
 Your married.. Shouldnt that be enough.. Dont be selfish to your husband.
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