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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I am a happily married woman who has been having a text 'affair' with an older fella who I met through work although we don't work together. He is in a position of high standing and he has made me feel good and given me confidence. I feel he started the flirty stuff and also sent me a couple of suggestive emails (those rude joke downloads people forward). I responded as I felt an emotional bond with him (he confided in me about his wife's lack of interest in sex although always said he loved her and he knew I loved my husband). He also helped me with some work problems. He stupidly left some texts on his phone and his wife discovered them. She was very upset but we carried on thinking we wouldn't get caught. Well, the same thing happened a couple of months later and one of my texts said I'd fallen for him and was sulking as he was going on holiday with his family. He rang me to tell me and said we would have to put an end to all personal contact as he loved her and we both knew our fling was going nowhere. Although I have my husband's love, I am deeply upset to finish this liaison which gave us both pleasure and excitement. My husband knows nothing but I am always scared the wife will contact him and spill the beans as she has nothing to lose. There have been several anonymous, silent calls to my mobile, my work phone and our home number all of which she could have obtained as they were stored on his phone. I don't feel guilty as we had no intention of hurting anyone and it didn't go beyond texting although now I wish it had. The only contact we have now is work related emails and 6 weekly committee meetings which we both have to attend at which he behaves in a professional manner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2009): "one of my texts said I'd fallen for him and was sulking as he was going on holiday with his family"Oh my god, this is so low. Can you imagine his children's faces and feelings if they read that? Stop being such a selfish idiot and get over yourself. You have your own husband - either get rid of him and find a single man or get back with the programme and stop this nonsense with this other married skank. Thank goodness at least he has come to his senses and ended this. Unbelievable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2009): It really is a mess when you connect with someone and they pull that shinanigan. The problem is women think with their emotions and men think on a physical realm. Plus men are into the hunt itself not the catch. It's only when the catch tries to slip away that the male feels the need to make the catch his own. I know this all seems cryptic but, it takes two to tango. Don't think he has forgot about you as he hasn't. You are a constant reminder thru work. Instead be aloof make him want you again if that's what you want..But with the wife knowing of your presence and existence period, it could end in disaster. I guess I'm saying, consider the consequences This man may have done you an extreme favor out of respect for you which says volume for the type of man he is. Good luck..
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