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writes:Hi everyoneWe relocated to a new city...My mom is currently staying with my 14 year old daughter in our house just till the end of this school year, then she will have to join us in the new city.I think the move is constantly on my daughter's mind because every chance she get, she will ask me if she could please stay behind ( almost begging)..I have lots of family where she can stay. But I feel we are a family and we should be together.I do realize she has made lots of good friends since she started high school. She's also been taking music lessons for the last 2 years and she enjoy it very much....i don't know what to do. The last thing i want is for her to be unhappy...but its not as-if we will be able to see her every weekend, this is long distance..Please advise if you,ve been in a similar situation, or if you are a teen, how did you adjust and did you also move against your will.Thanks.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (22 November 2011):
 argh for your daughter 14 is a lousy age to have to move...
I had a teen that we had to move schools.. we did it the year between middle school and high school because they changed physical schools then...
I would strongly suggest that you tell her that when summer break comes (that's how we do it here they get the entire summer off like 9 weeks) she will have to move to be with the family for the summer and then she can make friends in the neighborhood...
while we want our children happy sometimes we need to make then unhappy in the short term....
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reader, mammaboo  +, writes (22 November 2011):
 Similar thing happened to myself with my son,except he chose to stay away for good.This was because all his friends were there. We have a very good relationship and see each other often.Sometimes we have to learn to let go.Just keep the door open.They always come home for love and advice!
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