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*bbyTomko
writes:Hi its me again remember before when i said i was in love with my teacher and that he was in a LTR...?Well now they have split up and i really wanted make a move but i don't have the guts because i know almost for sure he'll push me away and things between us will never be the same...i'm just so in love with him i don't know what to do...please help xx
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reader, DIE-romantic. +, writes (22 July 2007):
 I wouldnt make a move now, i know how you feel, and if you love him you will not put him in the danger of losing his job. If he loses his job, it wont put you in a good situation with him.. let alone the trouble it could cause you. I know its hard, but try and resist it.
Message me if you want to talk more.
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (21 July 2007):
As a teacher myself I am telling you DO NOT GET INVOLVED HERE.
If this was to go ahead you would be breaking almost every rule in the book - he would loose his job, probably go to prison, you would be removed from the school you are presently at and would most probably be hated by your peers and loose lots of your friends.
There is no doubt a substantial age differance as well as the fact that you are under the age of consent.
I'll try and explain it from the teacher angle. When a pupil gets a bit of a crush the first reaction and feeling you get as a teacher is one of being a little bit flattered but this is very soon extinguished by concern and worry. As a teacher you want to distance yourself from the situation and refuse the pupils advances without upsetting them or offending them.
If the feelings you have are the genuine article and more than a schoolgirl crush which I very much doubt then wait.
Track him down when you are 18 and no longer involved with your present school. If something like this is ever going to work it would only possibly work then and not before.
Do you know your teacher is placed in a position of "Loco-Parentis" in school which means for the time you are in his class he is in a temporary position in law as your parent.
How do you think your dad would react if you come onto him and got amourous. Exactly (You wouldn't even think about it would you) - nor should you regarding any teacher who is in your school. It is simply out of bounds and to pursue it would be very dangerous indeed.
You probably feel a little pain as you are at the moment but if you dare take this situation any further this is nothing by comparrison to how you and a lot of others would feel.
I hope this has helped but please focus your energies more towards achievement and using this teacher more for what he can help you learn as opposed to anything personal.
I wish you all the best.
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reader, DV1  +, writes (21 July 2007):
 If you tried that, he would lose everything.
DV1
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (21 July 2007):
 my god NO!!First of all if he was to respond he would be in alot of trouble, will lose his job and be put into jail. If you do lvoe him, Which i doubt, you wouldnt do this.Like yummymummy said as a teacher or anyone in a position of power like this they should push the person away especially considering your age.I asuume your on summer holidays now. Use this time to forget about him and find someone else your age. As the relationship would be very wrong.I believe you have a deep crush on the man and we all know crushes are hard to get over, but you will.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (20 July 2007):
 NO WAY should you make a move. He is your TEACHER and could end up loosing his job or going to prison.
If the teacher pushes you away then he is doing the RIGHT thing. I would admire from afar hunni rather then make yourself look stupid and put your teacher in a very uncomfortable place!
It is hard having a crush on a teacher. I have been there and it hurts like hell but it isn't right to try and play on it.
I would use the summer holidays to try and get over him. I had a crush on a teacher for 2 years nad felt it would never go away, but it did. I got over him and moved on.
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