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writes: I'm seeing two guys. One is my boyfriend, one is getting close to becoming the same. I've met both of their parents, all their friends, and like them both very much. I know this can't last forever, and the more serious I become with them both, the more likely I am to get caught. One of them already shows up at my place randomly. If I could keep them both, I would.. but my freaking tarot cards said I'd get caught, and I would be devistated if I lost both of them. I like them both so much... what did I get myself into? I need to make a decision before they make one for me... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2007): well said dagwood
its defo not fair on the either of them 2, go for the 1 your heart loves but not both of them
i`m in the same boat as 1 of them lads right now and just found out that the so called gf is just friends with the other 1 for years and years and stayed at hers over the weekend i hit the roof , within mins got a email from her sayin we just talked all weekend (yeah right)
so i know how them 2 lads are feeling if either of them find out
dont let it go any further its not nice and will really hurt them if they find out which they will if you carry on
get out while ya can
as for me .. well i`m on "appear offline" on msn and going to do some hard thinking now about her now, this only happend about an hour ago so i`m still spitting blood about her, seems like the trust has gone :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2007): Walk away from both of them and start again. That way you don't have to choose and you are not being unfair to either of them.
Take care
xx
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (15 January 2007):
 I don't know squat about tarot cards, but I do know that if you burn a candle at both ends, you'll get burned. If you can be honest with them and yourself, and tell them that you are dating other people, then I don't see any reason why you can't date both of them. . . as long as they can accept the fact that you are dating other people. It's always better to be honest. To paraphrase another old quote, "Oh what a tangled web we weave, when we practice to deceive."
Good luck!
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reader, Tinkz  +, writes (15 January 2007):
 Well it's simple, draw up a table for each of them, make two colums, make colum on likes and colum 2 dslikes, then jot down all your likes and dislikes for them and the one with the most likes, go with that one!
The way i see it, is you young have fun make the most of it!
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reader, Dagwood +, writes (15 January 2007):
 Dear Mella,
Firstly the situation is not fair to either of the guys so you should stop immediately! You can't mess with people like this. I don't support the use of tarot cards but in this case they are correct; you will get caught! But that's beside the point, there is right and wrong and this is wrong. You’ll also loose your self respect and the respect of others. You obviously don't love your boyfriend if you're seeing another guy!! My advice is to break up with both of them and get to know and be happy with yourself. Find out what you want out of life and a relationship? Then take the time to choose a partner carefully and be faithful. You'll be happier and family & friends will respect you! Be good. Cheers Dagwood
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reader, Dagwood +, writes (15 January 2007):
Dear Mella,
Firstly the situation is not fair to either of the guys so you should stop immediately! You can't mess with people like this. I don't support the use of tarot cards but in this case they are correct; you will get caught! But that's beside the point, there is right and wrong and this is wrong. You’ll also loose your self respect and the respect of others. You obviously don't love your boyfriend if you're seeing another guy!! My advice is to break up with both of them and get to know and be happy with yourself. Find out what you want out of life and a relationship? Then take the time to choose a partner carefully and be faithful. You'll be happier and family & friends will respect you! BE GOOD. Cheers Dagwood
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