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writes:Ive been looking at how to go out with girls lately, as I feel my love life has been kinda non existent. Ive gone through a ton of articles and asked for advice through websites such as this one and im wondering if its normal to suddenly feel like every girl i meet I should try it out on. I had a uni meeting this evening and I was sitting next to this girl. Im not sure if shes my type but it felt like i was trying to force myself to see that she (and another girl) could be a possible date opportunity. I know that if i hadnt read any of this stuff before, i wouldnt have been thinking things like that, but now that I have gone through all these articles about how to attract women or go on dates, im starting to feel like im not being true to myself because im fully aware of all of my actions, as opposed to being myself.Has anyone else experienced this? I know dating takes time and its been about a week since my sudden awareness of my love life. Reply to this Question
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reader, Jsqueek +, writes (23 February 2011):
Jsqueek is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks alot for the advice. Ill try and take all things into consideration when im out and about.
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reader, LovelessAct1  +, writes (22 February 2011):
Its good that you see you don't feel you're being yourself when you're aware of your actions, however you should still be aware of them. I always use my roommate as an example. Without beating around the bush, he's kind of a dick. He's nice to the people he likes, but he constantly makes comments and snide remarks about people doesn't know or topics he doesn't understand. He wonders why girls won't date him and I tell him straight up, "Because you act like a dick." (We're brutally honest with each other, which is why we get along great)
But he claims its part of his personality and that he wouldn't want to date someone who couldn't accept who he is. That is a somewhat valid point, but at the same time, NOT being a nice person isn't made okay because "its who you are." If he would just watch what he says, I guarantee he'd find a nice girl.
That was a long side story, and I'm not saying you're unkind like my roommate. All I'm saying is: Its okay to be aware of your actions! Its not making you any less "you." :) Its simply making sure that you slip up in connecting with the other person by making offensive remarks or doing rude things.
Focusing on the whole of your dilemma, it will come naturally in time. Its okay to feel that every girl you see is a potential for a date. Some people have that one crush. Some people need to date around casually before getting involved.
Which ever one you are, things will only move forward if you make a move. Find a lady you're interested in and tell her you'd like to get to know her. It only takes a nice conversation for two people to really hit it off, so make sure you get that chance.
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