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writes:I need advice! Myself and my ex separated now x2 yrs ago, but i still have some feelings for him. I have let him stay in my house until he finds somewhere else to live (raise a deposit). He does support us financially but he constantly reminds me how desperate he is to get his place, and has told me on several occasions that he is ready to move on and see other people. He has spoken to an ex girlfriend last year and i know he discussed our situation - despite lying to me, he said he stopped talking to her for me as she was just a friend (but he still has her number in his phone - dont believe him though). He looks on porn on the computer and lies to me that its not him!! I dont know what to do, i believe he is not truthful despite saying that is important to him, he said that he hopes i will never hate him, but i feel used! I made the mistake of saying how i feel and ask if he was still attracted to me - he has moved on feeling wise and sexually he is not attracted to me as did not return my advances! is he is using me, should i just not say how i feel. I believe it is important to keep civil for the sake of our kids. help!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2011): throw him out he should not of hit u u have the rights
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters  +, writes (28 March 2011):
 I have some advice.
Throw him out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): He is taking advantage of you and off course you shouldn't say how you feel. Oh dear you are soo young and its crazy to waste even a second of your life to a man like that. I have same asshole in my house who's taking advantage of me, lying to me for over two years, flirting with other females in front of me, and that is just because I let him. Believe me - HE DON'T HAVE POWER OVER YOU! The moment you realize that you will realize that you are just in habit of wanting his love and I guess you are needy as you can say you love and care to someone who obviously doesn't want anything to do with you. The moment you realize you are the one whom you should love and care for, you will be free. And you will clear out garbage from your house. It is his moral and law duty to help you financially, but it is not your duty to be annoyed, upset or be ignored from someone who don't respect you. Please my dear, I can see that you are the one who kept that family together on force and you are the one more mature with a sense for responsibilities, don't let him use you any more, and push him out with explanation that you need to sort out your life. You are young and life is in front of you, and you can be nice to ex for two minutes when he come by to see kids. He doesn't want you to hate him but he is hurting you? Hit your head into the wall and ask yourself this question one more time. That man is manipulator and you are the sucker who's buying. Did it bring you any good? Love yourself and when you reach that point, you will be ready to be loved by other man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): you should try watching a movie with him in your house on the couch with him and get up and fall on him purposely and see what he does but start laughing an then look him in the eyes and be like I remember those days when we were this close and get up and walk into the kitchen or bathroom. I'm not sure if you don't want him back then don't do it but you have to show some affection towards him if you do. And if you don't want him back you wouldn't care if he was watching porn or seeing other people even though he's still living under your roof. good luck:)
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