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writes:I think I'm being way too insecure, but I don't know how to handle it. It's not that I'm insecure about myself. I'm insecure about my relationship with my boyfriend. I quite often dream of my boyfriend cheating on me, and I wake up crying. When we're apart, I call him all the time, but he's a typical guy and doesn't like to talk long. I cry when I get off the phone with him because I'm worried that he's with someone else. I often lose sleep from worrying too much. I think I need help....
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reader, Drnooch +, writes (17 May 2008):
If he has never cheated on you ever and has given you no reason to suspect him of doing so then deal with it. If you are losing sleep over this and it effects you so much it is getting out of control, talk with your doctor. He can prescribe you medicines that will actually help eliminate these worries while providing you with a worry free life. Lexipro, is a very common drug which helps aid in anxiety it is non-habit forming and actually is proven to work in cases like this. good luck Dr. nooch
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): I have been in a long term relationship of 23yrs and similar to you began having dreams that my partner was having an affair and it was correct the first time which was six year ago. He made many promisies to me and at the time I believed he meant it. Only for the same thing to happen again 2 months ago so listen to you instincts dont do what I did and waste another 6 years of my life. I am a very strong person and I know how much this can crush a person and I didnt think I could recovery from this but you do. I had no evidence to prove that he was having an affair but bluffed it out with him and he addmitted with out much denial. Life is too short, confront your fears and take control.I wish you well
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (15 May 2008):
 You think too much about losing your b/f and you will often dream about it.
You should stop worrying about losing your b/f because , everything is fated .
We cannot see into the future and whatever it brings,
we have to accept it.
For further readings if you are interested.
http://www.pinksuzie.com/2007/06/09/why-u-should-stop-worrying/
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): I know what you mean, but honestly dreams cannot be taken seriously. Some people even interpret them, but just put it out of your head and worry about things that matter in the world and not something that you have dreamt about.
take carexx
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): I don't think that you need help. I think that maybe you have seen some sort of a warning sign and it is coming out through your dreams. Trust someone who has been there, if you feel that something isn't right then chances are it isn't. I'm not saying that your boyfriend is cheating on you, he may not be. But you should think about the reason behind the dreams. What is making you feel insecure? Somewhere along the line you have seen or heard something that didn't set well with you and you have to figure out what it is and then ask yourself if it's really something to worry about. I ignored the warning signs about ten months ago and my boyfriend cheated on me then dumped me after I confronted him repeatedly because a friend told me what she had heard from a coworker of his and hers and then when I asked him he said no it hadn't happened and then changed that to an I'm ALMOST positive it didn't and couldn't bring myself to break up with him but ended up pushing him to break up with me. It was the best thing that I could have done, I'm not saying it didn't hurt and that I didn't cry and get depressed but over time and with good friends I pulled through and refocused on school, a career, my current job, and getting back in the dating game. I have started to date a guy that worships the ground I walk on and while I still have trust issues and am still hurt I am happy that that relationship ended because it wasn't what was best for me. There is someone out there that you will feel secure with but you're not going to find them by waking up crying. Keep your head up. Do what's best for yourself.
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