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writes: My sister's (she's 14) boyfriend is in my grade (we're both 17) and I always had a bad vibe around him. Well he came over to watch a movie with her when my parents weren't home (my sis paid me like $15 so I wouldn't tell them). She left to go the washroom and well she was gone he put his arm around me. Then he tried to kiss me (if my boyfriend was there he would have gone insane), I tried everything to get free (it didn't work), hitting, pushing him but it then my sis walked in on us. She burst into tears and ran to her room. So I kicked him out and told him to stay away from my sister, My sister wont talk to me or look at me. What do I do ? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): i think you should just not talk to your sister
or look at her
because if she wont let you explain why should you explain when you havnet done nythink
she will forget about it soon and she is 14 she shouldnt really be in love with a man hus 17 like lol
so i fink she will get ova it
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reader, THE ALTERNATIVE ROCKER  +, writes (1 December 2008):
 Well there are many guys that dont apreciate women of all ages but never give up on talking to your sister.Another thing is that you should get him back to see if she would believe him but dont go and see him alone he might attempt doing it again.
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reader, katatonik  +, writes (1 December 2008):
 Continue trying to explain things to her. Keep in mind that what you're saying is just what she DOESN'T want to hear about her boyfriend. For her to admit to herself that he kissed you forcibly, she has also to admit to herself that he is in the wrong and was acting unfaithfully towards her. No girl wants to think that of someone she cares about, and accepting this will probably take your sister time.
In the meantime, DON'T accept any more bribes to let him come around. If this guy would try something like this with you, think of what he might be doing to your sister, who is younger and less knowledgeable than you are. She shouldn't be alone with him either! This is going to be your call, but honestly if it was me I'd tell your parents what has happened. You will have to admit that you were in the wrong for taking a bribe so they could be alone, and your sister will be even less happy that the story is out, but I think her safety is worth this. This guy has already shown that he doesn't respect your boundaries--imagine how you would feel if something were to happen to HER, and that you'd known about how he is and not done anything. Think about it. Good luck =]
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (1 December 2008):
 It sounds like this guy was dating your sister to get to you, which you couldn't have known until he made his move. He sounds like quite a rat, and I'm glad that you paid attention to the bad vibe that he was giving off, and the fact is, your sister bribed you because SHE knew she shouldn't have been with him either.
If you could turn back the clock, you shouldn't have accepted the payoff because you knew he was bad news, and you knew that he was not a nice guy for your sister to date. Big Sisters do have a responsibility in looking out for their Little Sisters when they suspect that they are making stupid mistakes for themselves. I'll bet that you probably thought he was a bit of a loser by having to date someone out of your grade in the first place, right?
How to get her to talk to your again? Tell her the biggest mistake was that you didn't stop her from dating Mr. Creepy in the first place and apologize for not having her back. Tell her about your bad vibes and that you will always be truthful and tell her if you don't like a guy that she is dating and that you'll always have her back. And give her back the money. It's the right thing to do. Sounds like you are a good Big Sis. XXX
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