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reader, TestofUnseen  +, writes (18 January 2010):
You still don't know how to deal with the situation? Paint me the scene a tad better what was said during the argument? If he told you why tell your sister what he said if not then carry an ice pick and keep his head on the point.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2008): Personally I think it would be best to tell your sister before anyone else, because if she doesn't hear it from you, then she'd be more likely to take his side. You really should make sure she understands that you were the victim before you get him in trouble for something that she would have expected you to have told her, if the first she hears of it is that he'd been in trouble with the police then she'd wonder why you never said anything to her, and she may even think you're making it up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2008): TELL EVERYONE! Make that boy pay!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2008): Telling your sister is absolutely the wrong thing to do. You need to take your mother and father aside and tell them, your mother first. And make sure that she understands that you had absolutely nothing to do with this. Your mother and father need to forbid your sister from seeing him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2008): Erm, that's a very tough situation to be in. Definitely tell your parents, and possibly authorities. Once you have a few trusted adults on your side, tell your sister, as she should know that he's a really shallow jerk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2007): if i were you id tell your sister what happend and i wouldnt even look at him.just dont let him get to you i know its hard but im sure ull find away xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2007): yeah that rat bastard deserves a kick in the nutz and a trip to juvee. You should not only bring it up with your sis but the law and your parents. That "monster of a guy" is a direct threat to your sister and every other girl that he comes in contact with. If he attemps to rape you once he will try to do it again to someone else and possibly your sister. If you dont speak up who knows how many other girls that can be hurt by him
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2007): tell him hes a jerk and slap him, thats what i would do
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2007): he is a total jerk and i think you should tell your sister what happened
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2007): hi i am 10 years old and my sister 21 year old and her boyfriend whos 26... i heard about your sisters boyfriend problem and i think you should set up a trap.
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put a camrea on the window or somewhere with a veiw the wear your cutest clothes and say to him 'wanna make out?'
then afterwards show the video to youir sister.
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do the same as eg.1. but insted of a camrea ask your sister to hide somewhere... where she can see.
eg.3.tell your sister the truth.
shes got to understand her lil sis
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2007): Hey, I really think you should get a boy friend as in a guy mate, tell them what happened get your boy friend to threaten him and i really think you need to tell your sister...
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2007): I would comfront my sister after alerting a parent or teache, as if he has tried this on you, whois to say he has not done or attempted this on your sister, maybe even more than once. This is a serious offence and needs to be delt with not ignored. Who knows who he has done this to or attempted to do or what he will do in the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2007): you really need to tell do what happens if he dose it to another girl but next time its worse
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2007): I think u shoud tell someone. knowing sisters they normally would belive her bf and not u so best 2 tell ur parents ur teacher first. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2006): DON'T QUIT SCHOOL!!!!!!!!!!!WHATEVER YOU DO. DON'T! When you walk from class to class, just try as hard as you can to avoid him. And if you absolutely hane to walk passed him, walk and talk with a friend or even a group of friends and don't look at him. And when you finally have enough courage, and your sister is in a really good mood, sit her down and calmly explained to her what happend. If she is a good sister, she'll understand, and possibly will tell her boyfriend to stay away from you. I hope that helps your problema.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2006): simply ignore him and if he starts bothering you then you need to tell either your sister or an adult. If you are afraid to do that then go to the police but do not let him get away with anything
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2006): just tell her the truth, that basterd deserves a good bite in the balls, if she doesn't break up with him then it's her problem. But he trys any thing again then call the cops, and charge the jerk. He doesn't deserve to be a guy any more, do me a favor and next time you see him rip his balls out of his sack. I hope you get that jerk, and your sister belives you and breaks up with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2006): that happened to my friend to and she didnt tell anyone, she now hates almost every guy that she doesnt know personly
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2006): Look tell your sister she will understand and also tell the police
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2006): Just tell ur sister what happened and tell ehr ur being as mature as possible and its not a joke
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2006): Honey, you need to completely ignore anyone who tells you this was your fault or that you may have caused this in any way. This was not your fault. And you need to tell someone about it now.I wouldn't recommend telling your sister. I believe you when you say she might blame you. Better to find another adult. It seems you don't trust your parents either? You need to tell an adult in a position of power (teacher, counselor, police officer). And when you tell your sister, make sure there is a reasonable adult there. If you don't tell someone, he will try this again and again until he gets you. Protect yourself. You have nothing at all to be ashamed of. Walk away from anyone who tells you that you might.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2006): try to avoid him from ur family
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2005): I think you should just let it go. You were most likely flirting with him and you being so young and naieve, didnt know you were sending the signals that you wanted sex. Just remember this the next time you try to seduce your sisters boyfriend
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2005): If he tried it once, he might try it again. Maybe not to you, but unfortunately your sister or any other girl. Don't let him have this power over you, to make you keep quiet. Tell someone you can trust who you know can help you. I came across your story throught the internet and it's very similal to what happened to me. Only, I wasn't as lucky as you. I hope you make the right decision in the end. Take care.
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reader, charliesgirl +, writes (12 August 2005):
This is a gravely serious matter. This person has not only attempted to rape a minor, he has also betrayed the trust of all of your family. He is a potential threat to your sister and indeed any girl or woman and you must take action.
I can understand that you may not feel ready to speak to your sister about this. Is there a trusted adult, a relative or teacher/counsellor at school that you can confide in? You should not have to feel intimidated in your own school. He is capable of evil and may even threaten you in order to prevent you from saying anything. However, once you have reported this incident, I think it is important that you tell your sister, or ask a member of the family to speak to her on your behalf so that she doesn't find out from a third party. That would be disrespectful to her and may split the family apart.
I understand that this is very difficult for you at such a young age but it is important that you speak up to protect your sister or any other girl for that matter. Imagine if he does the same to your sister or worse and then she finds out that knew about his behaviour, would she ever forgive you? It will also help you to talk to somebody about what has happened, as you should not blame yourself for what he has tried to do.
Good luck and all the best
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reader, becky05 +, writes (12 August 2005):
You need to tell someone about this, either your sister or your parents.
He should not be allowed to get away with this. What would have happened if you hadnt got away? How would you feel if he did the same thing to your sister or another girl? You need to speak up before your sister or someone else gets hurt. There is no evidence to suggest hge will not do this again.
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