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writes: My sister just died from cancer a week ago. Now I'm like Ms. Popularity. All the popular girls want me to be there friend and even one of the (cute) jocks ask me out (I say yes). Before my sis died I isn't very popular. Whats up with everyone? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe popular kids turn on me. Now they're teasing me because of my sister. And the (cute) josk dump me. Why they turn on me?
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reader, jessica_04  +, writes (16 July 2008):
i am so sorry for what you have gone thru and what you are still going thru! i think birdynumnums is right they are being nice and kind because of your loss. but let me tell you something! just because the popular kids have offerd you friendship doesnt mean you are going to forget who your reall friends are! keep that in mind and im really sorry for your loss i really wish you the best of luck and hope you feel much much better!
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (16 July 2008):
 Well, I think that they are being very nice to you because they are all so terribly sorry that you lost your sister. It's obvious that they want you to feel better because this did coincide with your sister's passing. I'm sure that they are doing this out of kindness and concern, but I would try not to expect special treatment to continue forever. Be kind and grateful to your new friends in return. Be your own sweet self and don't take advantage or expect special favours because of your bereavement. It may only be a temporary change in the behavior of all the people around you, so don't be surprised if it all quiets down again, I'm afraid. I'm hoping that they are not superficial people and that it does continue, however. Make sure that you yourself do not neglect the friends that you have had all along. They were there before this happened to your family, and they will be there afterwards. People are quick to pick up on insincerity.
Try not to party too much right now, Dear. It might be a mistake to fill one gap in your life with false sense of happiness. Your parents will worry if you start disappearing and partying too much. Try hard not to neglect your family right now. It isn't necessary to stay home for six months or a year in order to mourn anymore, but that was what people used to do, believe it or not. Your Mom and Dad are also grieving and they probably would like to see you more, not less. So try to keep it all in balance. You need quiet time by yourself too, in order to be sad to and let it all out. Don't be surprised if this happens when you least expect it too. Time is the best healer, I'm afraid. Lots and lots of time.
My Condolences to You and to your Family on the loss of you Sister.
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