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writes:Im staying with my sister and her daughter(17), im nt working loking for a job,but my sister shes working, im staying in her house, she buy me everything for me, but she want me to cook every day, cline her house,gve her food,and after she finish eating she want me 2 go and cline ther,and wash her clothes, but im not her domestic worker the problem is that im nt working that y she tret me like this, im tired of this thing can u plz help? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for ur advice
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (20 August 2010):
 I'm afraid this probably is not what you want to hear but I agree with your sister! You are unemployed therefore I presume you are not contributing financially to your own keep? Therefore you will be staying in your sisters house, for free, doing nothing all day. Of course you should be cleaning!
No you are not her domestic worker, you are her sister and she should always treat you like a sister - but you cannot just live for free in someone elses house and expect to sit around doing nothing.
You should WANT to help around the house - your sister is being kind and generous by supporting you whilst you are looking for a job, therefore you should WANT to repay her kindness by helping out around her house. Without her money and the roof over your head you would struggle, and you cannot just expect her to do this for you without giving anything back. Yes she is your sister and she will want to help you out, but even still you cannot take advantage of her generosity.
So what I suggest is that you keep quiet and get on with it, until you get a job and you can support yourself financially. Whilst you are relying upon your sister for EVERYTHING, you have to help your sister out in any way you can and in this case it is through help at home.
If you are struggling to fit in searching for a job because she is demanding too much of you, then that is a problem and you need to talk to her. Explain that you want a job and need time to look for one, but she is giving you too much to do. But make sure she always knows that you are happy to help around the home because you are grateful for what she has done for you.
But if it is only a few tasks around the house and it only takes a couple of hours then you cannot really complain, your sister has done a good thing by looking after you and paying for you, therefore you need to be good to her by helping in any way you can.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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