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writes:WIFE's EX (EXCELLENT) LOVER NOW FUTURE BROTHER IN-in-LAWSis and I are close; only 2 years apart. Last year, Sis started grad school and met this great guy, she told me. Sis beamed after each date with him, and enthusiastically said he was the absolutely best lover she ever had (and that's paying quite a compliment, let me tell you): Scandanavian American, adonis built, blond wavy hair, and HUGE, really big. Sis said he would make her have the big-O 4x to 10x a session, all night, until she was too sore. And he got off multiple times, too. She even whimpered taking about how great in bed he was. She even nicknamed him Superman. Fine; I was very happy for her, and so she decided to bring him home for Thanksgiving. This is the good part: at Thanksgiving, in walks Superman, at my mother's house, to meet the family, and he is everything Sis says: charming, friendly, bright, happy, and, yes, he looks like a greek god. And the best part of the story, my WIFE used to live with him in college!! For two years! Both my wife and Superman turned bright red; it was ackward at the beginning. At the time, he spoke first, saying it was good to see his old friend again from his college days. Smooth jerk. It was obvious to Sis and I that they had been together previolusly from the onset, but my parents were excited - it was great that people already knew each other. Yeah, just great. Parents still don't know, and I think that's a good thing. Even my parents, who think he's wonderful, now call him Superman, not knowing what it initially really means, but people wouldn't even think that this guy should be nicknamed anything but Superman. At dinner, my wife stared longingly at this dude with wide eyes, and I notice her crossing her legs tightly, and flicking her high-heels on-and-off quickly, and subconsciously, agitated. We now have seen them regularly at family dinners, though I've made some excuses and passed on some invites, too.Problem is, obviously, my wife clearly longs for this guy. She is somewhat depressed, and is really only interested in fooling around with me if we have seen them (she doesn't admit it, but she gets turned on just seeing him). She also looks disappointed after our love making, though she and no other have looked so unsatisfied until Superman arrived. I even got some toys to help, which have helped a lot. But that doesn't make me feel much better knowing that she need s the toy! She says that she does miss him, and that they had a good time, but that was the past (at this point, she has to catch her breathe or her voice crackles). I am about a foot shorter than he is, though good looking enough; I never had a problem getting girls. I am also at least 1/2 his size down there, according to Sis. My wife only confirmed that yes, he was big, but I had told her some of the stories Sis told me about him before we all met, so it's already out in the open... I can see that she has to catch her breathe when she sees him. Sis has noticed, and doesn't care as much, though isn't wild about the idea; Sis says she has him. She feels bad for me because it's obviously a big ego-deflater. Sis also says that Superman is going to propose. This tension is going to ruin my marriage. Any ideas?
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reader, roadman  +, writes (1 January 2009):
 Well best to worry about your own love life and not your sisters,if she gets in any problem then just let her know you'll always be there for her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2008): Love goes beyond sex. My husband was not my best sex partner, although I do not see the who was, but the way he treats me and truly loves me makes up for that.
I would never give up the loving man for the sex.
Now, what are the best parts of your relationship? Why did your wife marry YOU? Make her remember those reasons. Show her the attention that got her to walk down the aisle to you.
Everyone has a few fantasies, she may be having a few of the sex that she shared with him, but she shares her life with YOU.
If this doesn't help you, try turning it around another way. Rent a superman costume, get the biggest toy you can find, (maybe a huge strap on) get the whipped cream, the ice, or what ever her favorite things are, and give her a night she will never forget. You can always run into the room with the "toy" held high and say "If you can't beat em' Join em". Don't stop till she is exhausted, even if you have to use every tool available. When she hears the word superman after that she will remember what YOU gave her.
As a woman this sounds like a lot of fun, and it is a great way to build you up, because you are giving her a memory that the "guy" cannot replace.
Also, stay away from him as much as possible until you have accomplished your goal. You may have to sacrifice yourself a few times, but I am sure, the New and Improved Superman with Bionics, can handle it, for the greater good.
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