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writes:I'm 25 and my fiance's 26. We've been engaged for a year now, and everything in our life is pretty much good - we're well-liked, in good jobs and earning a decent amount to live on.We've had arguments like any couple have, and they've resolved themselves usually but...However, it was yesterday that our relationship hit a turning point. My fiance said that rather than us getting married, we should have a civil partnership ceremony instead - it would be better.I asked him to repeat it - and he said, yes, it was a civil partnership ceremony. I was shocked.I said to him it was only for homosexuals/lesbians, but he said straight couples like us could easily have a civil partnership.He's insistent we do this, yet I want a nice wedding, not an overblown one, just a nice family wedding.I've tried discussing this with him, but this is driving our relationship to the point where we can't even sort out details of the wedding.What can I do about this situation?? I just don't know where to turn next! Other than this, our relationship is great.Andrea from Nottingham, United Kingdom
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (1 January 2009):
Ask him why he doesn't want a wedding.
Get him to talk about it. Is it the expense? Is it a religious thing?
Civil partnerships were invented so that two people could bind themselves and their assets together legally.
If that is all he wants to do then that's fine but I think you should be a little girly on this one and tell him that if he doesn't want to MARRY you then he can have his ring back and bugger off.
I'm sure he'll come round to at least talking about it pretty fast after that.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Weasel Ann  +, writes (31 December 2008):
It seems a little raw right now. Ask him to think about your feelings, and tell him you will look into a civil ceremony. Then say lets not talk about it for a week. Come back to it then with new information, and feelings not so raw. Then talk it out. It sounds like this is a relationship worth saving. A week will calm everyone and maybe he is just a little more stressed about the wedding than you know.
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