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*ordan L. Davis
writes:hi, i'm 17 years old and so is my girlfriend. i love her but i kept talking to other girls and saying they're my wife and girlfriend and another i was having phone sex with and my door wasn't closed and i was over the covers. and my mom walked in on me and caught me while i was doin that and jerking off. I persuaded my mom not to tell her parents or her but I have to tell her myself. I already sent and e-mail to her sayin all my true feelings spilling my heart out. look, i know what i did was wrong and if i loved her then i wouldn't have been doing it but i don't have any reason as of to why i was doing, maybe just i get when i'm at home i can't control my feelings. but i know deep down that i love my girlfriend, no matter what i said to all the other girls, i truly and honestly promise to god that i love her with all my soul an heart. i know women say all men are like this, but i didn't want to be a dog, not me, i didn't wanna be like every other guy. i know phone sex is cheating too but i know i would've never really did any of this stuff with all the other girls, and i've already told them were just friends. i hope i'm man enough to tell her. i would do anything to see her happy or to please her, she's one of the only things that makes me happy and i know i could possibly marry her in the future. sShould i tell her over the phone or in person? and how do i tell her? do you think that she might love me enough to give me another chance?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009): I would tell her in person. She will probably forgive you but you have to truly sorry and not do it again. If you think this is a serious problem...it sounds like one to me you might want to seek help evein if it's just someone to talk to.
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reader, justjones09  +, writes (1 January 2009):
Well, Cheating hurts no matter how you put it. Im sure she will have a hard time trusting you again, but Dude. Man up. Tell her in person.
She'll proly want to know why. And if you tell her you dont know or just because... well that isnt wise to do. Yo uknow what you did was wrong. So why did you do it? Why didnt you have phone sex with her? If these other girls arent someone you'd do stuff with, you should have done it with her.
All in all, i hope it goes well for you. Best of luck.
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reader, s3xY +, writes (31 December 2008):
 i suggest that you tell her in person first tell her about how much you love her then tell her about what you did and tell her no ones perfect everyone makes mistakes i cant really say what she would say its her desicion what ever shes say i hope you well good luck
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reader, dt1213 +, writes (31 December 2008):
well its hard to say because i dont know your girlfriends personality but i am a 17 year old girl. its possible that she could realize you made a huge mistake and then just put it all behind her, but you have to show her that you are really sorry. It has to be an appologie more than just a confession. I would do it in person without a doubt if i were you because it is deffinately more meaningful if you are right there in front of her telling her how sorry you are. Make sure that she knows you wont ever do that to her again and also make sure she knows how much you love her. If she does happen to forgive you, dont be suprised when she develops some trust issues. You arent going to have her 100% trust right away but its always possible to gain it back. I wish you luck and I hope she takes it well.
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