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writes:My husband's sister Rudee called me last night. She unceasingly insulted me in every possible way and blaming me for saying something, which in fact I had never thought of. I was dumbfounded by her cruel and rude words. When I asked her to let me explain, she hung up on me. After talking to some relatives, I knew that she heard from some close sources that I had said bad things, like bribery, fraud about her husband. The truth is I had never thought of or said any such things about her husband. I felt very angry and upset. My husband and I had helped Rudee and her husband a lot in the past, without our help and bringing up, they would not become what they are now: successful and rich. How could she called me, insulted me without hearing me out first??? My husband already called her and criticized that her action was thoughtless, ungrateful and rude. However, she has not offered any apology to me yet. What should I do? I am still very offended, angry and upset right now....
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 June 2010):
Just don't speak to her. Everyone knows you've done nothing wrong. Your husband completely supports you, and you know you're in the right. Just let her cool down and get on with your own life.
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reader, Caresha  +, writes (23 June 2010):
Hi there,
well, try to understand where she is coming from. She is not the one that made it up. From her point of view she might think that you actually did say a lot of awful things about her and she might be too emotional to actually hear what you want to say.
Calm down, find the root of the problem. You said your hubby already called her so you are not alone in this. Figure out what actually happened. And do it calm and rational. You know you are right but giving in to emotions will not help clear the situation, it just might make it worse because confliciting emotions on two sides might escalate.
If you cannot figure out what happened and what the root of the problem is kindly tell her that you would like to clear up whatever happened. Do not put her on the spot as she might still be emotionally not able to calmly figure it out. Tell her you want to and give her the power to decide when she is ready.
That is what I would do.
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