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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes: Hello,I love and care about my little Sister a lot and I want to always support her decision's in life.So far online after researching this issue that I am about to discuss... I realized that they are a lot of cousins that have fallen in love with each other,got married and tried to have babies. Well, my little sister is in love with our second cousin who is a year older then her. She is 18 and he is 19 year old. They have fallen in love and they have been in a relationship of 2 year so far. They haven't had sex yet but it might come to that.Don't know for sure.The thing is, that my family does not accept that nor does his family accepted that.Not everyone knows from the family but only me,my mother,my grandmother who her sister is my cousins grandmother and his mother. I am not crazy about the idea of my sister's boyfriend who happens to be her and my second cousin. I believe that if this does go on ,its going to cause a huge situation within our families and the bad reputation that my little sister would have to deal with the rest of her life. Personally, I don't support it but I do love my sister and I do want her to be happy and get married one day and have babies but not with our cousin. I know its only our second cousin but the society and in general is something that has not and will not be accepted. Cousin marriages when they decide to have babies they are defects risks that rise from about 2% in the general population to 4% when the parents are closely related.A 50 percent higher risk of acquiring genetic disorders, mental, physical and sexual defects are also common in cousin marriages.There is so much information about this on the internet and I really hope this love between my sister and my second cousin disappears. I want my sister to be able to become a mother one day and give birth to healthy babies.If there is somewhere out there that is in the same spot as I am,please share your story with me and the decision you have made.Thanks
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (26 May 2013):
Have you talked to your sister about this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2013): Don't worry too much. She is 18, he is 19. It's not true love. It's just their teen hormones. They will lose their heat when they grow older.
Meanwhile, let them live in their dreams.
And as you said there are older people who know about this. So please don't put so much pressure on yourself. If they have to be stopped, they will be.
Teens will fight back if you try to stop them. Even if they are wrong. The best solution is to let the TIME do its job.
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