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26-29,
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writes:I'm 20 and earn 100 euro a week and i suffer from severe stress anxiety and depression. I moved out from home one year ago to live with my fiance but our rent increased massively causing us to leave the home we made together, the rent rise was a huge shock and every house we looked for was too far from my fiances work or too expensive. My mother and father then offered for us to live with them for the next 6 months so we can save for a mortgage, we are also getting married in 8 months time so the pressure to have money ready is huge. Since moving down my sister who i dnt speak as she has hurt me so much in the past went and rang my brother telling him that we are taking over the house and living off my parents and we are a disgrace, even though we buy our own food pay there rent and drive them everywhere. She was trying to rise my brother because in the will he is granted the house. He rang me and told me that my sister said she was ripping that we were moving into my parents. After coming off the phone from him I text my sister telling her she should mind her own business and stop trying to ruin other peoples lives that this is nothing to do with her that she abandoned four of her children and left them without a mother . My brother then got abuse from my sister for telling me what she said. My brother than rang me attacking me for telling her and told me he was going to kick me out of his house that my mother and father pay rent for that is my parents house and that i help them pay. He kept shouting at me saying the house was his and as much as i explain that i don't want the house he still possessive over it even though all i am doing is saving for my own house. On the other hand my sister has sent me nothing but abusive messages and threats and I don't know what to do she tells me constantly i am a lazy fat cunt that she will get me and that nobody wants me she tells me she hates me and that i am nothing but a dosser all because i sleep in a bed in my parents house she made me feel so small even though she is 20 years older than me she is acting like a child. I am doing nothing to them i am not affecting there lives but they are bullying me and taunting me all because i moved home for a few months. Should i delete these people completely from my life? What should i do? I am just trying to save for a home and wedding. Please help.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (26 September 2015):
 I would reply to any message they sent "thank your for the message, I have passed it on to our mother and father.
"It's extremely distressing to find that we have reached this level of family animosity and nasty messages.
"I am here with my fiancee in our parents' home while we sort out our living situation.
"It pains me to see such disrespecttul treatment of Mum and Dad for this generosity and natural parenting.
Then I would not reply beyond normal, factual, brief responses.
If the bullying and taunting continues then do consider blocking them.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (25 September 2015):
 Hope your fiancee's family is close by and they have no other dysfunctional family members you have to worry about.
I think one valid argument that would support you is that it's your parent's house and they let you stay. You were made to feel small because in reality, your sister feels small so she uses verbal abuse to feel big. She feels worthless being a deadbeat mom and she is jealous that you are ambitious and getting married.
If you have no other options I suggest developping a thick skin or use favours to exchange for her quietness. Write a contract with your parents that it's only for 6 months, then show it to them.
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