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writes:Because we've been together for nearly eight months, I've always known my boyfriend spends time on his appearance, sometimes even more than me! (He has nearly as many beauty products as I do, and a lot more hair stuff - which is crazy because I have so much of it all!). He does spend a lot of time checking his reflection, working out, looking at his hair, tweezing his eyebrows, waxing, blah blah blah I could go on for ever. I've always taken it fir granted - he likes to care for his looks, so what? That's a good thing, he's very good looking! But about two months ago he has been obsessed with having sex in front of the mirror, and he's never looking at my reflection only his. I accepted that - it's just what he felt was turning him on. I allready knew seeing himself during sex or masturbation really turns him on - he often masturbates in front of the mirror. Then he also started making me tell him exactly how 'gorgeously sexy', 'hot' and even 'beautiful' he was whilst we were doing it, his eyes constantly locked on his reflection. He said it was my duty to focus on what he wanted - which started to make me feel a bit annoyed, Id have appreciated some focus on my pleasure as well. He started to not let us have sex any other way, saying that it was how he liked it and I was being too demanding. I felt a bit guilty but pestered him to have sex on the bed, he continually refused and told me I was being selfish and horrible. I burst into tears so he said he'd do it on the bed. I was so happy - until he made me hold a mirror up in front of my face. I'm getting seriously frustrated and am starting to doubt whether to stay with him, but I'm also feeling guilty for being so horrible... Is this just a normal thing?? Please help, I can't stand it any longer!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2011): Oh my god, sorry, but this is ridiculous! Why are you letting him degrade you in this way!? Tell him that as he loves himself so so much, he'll be the only person having sex with him. Get the hell out of that crazy egocentric maniac relationship.
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reader, Amph  +, writes (17 January 2011):
Do you love him? Because I seem he loves himself more than you. Sorry honey, you can do nothing. I count: He, He and you. Three for a couple, too many people living into it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 January 2011): Are you kidding me! This guy has got you brainwashed somehow. You're not the one being horrible-HE is!!! Come on, this is not normal-this guy is psycho conceited! Dump him, get some self-esteem and self-respect, then find someone that doesn't live in front of a mirror!!
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