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writes:I am 26 years old and i was with my ex for 6 years and she had a daughter that was 3 years old. The daughter never knew her father cause he was in jail, so i raised the girl as my own, i made my ex get child support from the father when he got out of jail, and he wanted to see his daughter now oblviously, so it was uncomfortable for me but i managed.I was then on the rocks with my ex some years later and i decided to call it quits when the unthinkable happens, she's pregnant. So we get back together for a year and a half and i couldn't take it anymore, they left far away and i seen my daughter and ex step daughter every month for a week, i made a real effort see my kids, i have been with my new girlfriend for a year now and we moved closer to my kids so i can see them more frequently, but my GF has a hard time dealing with my relationship with the oldest girl thats not mine, and why i should keep up the relationship with her! I have told her i raised the kid from 3 to 9 so she is my daughter, my oldest daughter has been having a hard time with the change and i often think that my relationship with the girl will fade as she gets older, she is 11 now but when she is 16 will she still call me dad, or think why? he only raised me for 6 years! hes not my dad. Her father is back in jail, or rehab so my ex does not get support from him so i buy the girls clothes and things, my ex givs me grief and a hard time about not given her enough money and this causes stress between me and my GF. WHAT DO I DO? DO I keep the relationship with the oldest for as long as the oldest decides! Oblviously right but i shouldnt have to keep supporting a kid thats not mine now right? I dont pay support for the oldest but i buy her clothes and things just as i buy my little one things. You cant just buy things for the youngest and not the oldest! My gf thinks i should get a court order for joint custody of my daughter so she cant say no when i ask for her frequently, but this wont solve everthing! Send me advice please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2007): Are you close with your step-daughter? Why is your ex bugging you about a child that is not yours? She should go after her biological father instead of you. Why is this your problem?You took the responsibility of a child that's not yours for a few years. You buy her things because it's only right because you by your child things as well.Listen to your girlfriend, get a child custody order but don't tell her. I, myself, is going threw a child custody order. It's rough but it's well worth it. Type up a visitation schedule, attach it to your child custody order. It helps. There are a lot of people out there that doesn't file for child custody. It is only right and legal, so therefore, she can't say anything because it's in a legal document. Trust me on this one, I am going threw it now.
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