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writes: I am 19 (turning 20 in 2months) and I have been in a relationship with this guy for 2yrs now. He was the first guy I had a sexual relationship with and I really love him. But for the past 6 months all we've been doing is arguing, well i'm usually the one arguing. I feel that he doesn't put enough effort into our relationship as I do. For his birthday I went through so much trouble to make it the perfect weekend, and all he could care about was his friends, I didnt even eat that nite becuase his friends were offered all the food and not me.On my birthday all I asked for was a dinner and he could not even manage that, instead he took me to go "hang out" with his friends. I just think I do too much for him and he does not seem to care (there have been more instances). Im just sick of being the only one trying and I feel like I'm in a one sided relationship. I've talked to him he said he'll change 100times but never does. What should I do? or am I the one who's wrong? Please Help. Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2006): gurl...i tottally get what ur on abt hea...i bin wid my man for nearly 3 years...last year and half has been constant arguin...we do have or laffs n work great as a team...people tell us were gud togeva...bu i sumtimes feel that im always puttting in extraaa for him...so abt a month ago..(after a 1000's i promise ill change n im sorrys') i told him its over...mainly for my self respect...we hang out in uni..n its pisses me off that he isnt even botherd abt the fact that i ended it..shows what an ass he is really..still acts like a arrogant swine..bu im nt gna let him ruin my xmas spirit..gurl..u live ur life...its hard to turn ur back on memories...bu its even harder when he lets u down ova n ova agen..u make the choice..y not go on a break?...u hav a fresh new year ahead of u...let it bring u suprises...god bless u n urz..friend:) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2006): If you know what you are doing wrong then why are you doing it? Gradually stop running after him. Stop doing all these things for him. He clearly doesn't take up the hint and do these things for you so why bother. sit him down and tell him exactly what you have told us and tell him he must change because it is getting you down. If he doesn't and its not what you want then get rid.
There are plenty more guys out there.
Take care
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reader, Thomas17  +, writes (12 December 2006):
 hello, what i suggest is that you try to see your boyfriend's perspective of the relationship. take note of his behavious more than usual. he's not exactly ignoring you completely, but he's not with you most of the time as well?
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reader, xLEAHx  +, writes (12 December 2006):
 I have also been in a relationship like this,and to a point still am,so i do feel for you,i can totally see where your coming from, its not very nice being the person to always give and to get nothing in return,its your caring and kind nature that makes you do almost anything for that person you love, and do anything to make them happy,and that the other person just takes your kind caring nature for granted,don't worry hun your not the only one out there in this situation,my advise from personal experience would be to stop making an effort and putting yourself out all the time for this person then your see how much difference it makes, if he notices a change in you he'l then realise how selfish his been and if he really thinks anything of you and loves you he'l change his ways,but on the other hand some people won't because thats the way they are, so then its up to you to decide whether you want things to go on as they have been.
hope this helps good luck..
xLEAHx
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