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writes:I am devastated. My relationship is not turning the way I wanted and it is about to end. I am just really depressed and crying all the time. I can't do anything, I just stay in bed the whole day thinking, don't even go outside. I know I have to be strong and stick to the break up 'cause he does not deserve me, but it is the hardest thing in the world right now. To make the short story short, he was still talking to his ex while being with me; I confronted him lots of times and never stopped. But, tonight was enough and I told him all it was in my mind. He said nothing only that "he agrees and he had a headache and needed to sleep"...we will talk tomorrow, but I am a little weak and I need strenght to keep me strong on my decicion...Please help me, just any advice will be apreciated..
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (1 June 2008):
 Its a horrible feeling and you dont think you will ever feel normal again, but you will but it will take time. You say that the relationship is not turning out the way you want, what about what he wants. Without knowing the full story its hard to comment on his talking to his ex. I have known my ex for 24 years and as hard as it is for new hubbie of 5 years to accept sometimes, I have regular contact with him as we have children together and he was obvioulsy a major part of life at one point. He still rings me to ask my opinion of things in his life but its how I handle it which makes it easier for my husband.
Is this something you could work out together, is it just jealousy and unacceptance on your part or is it truly unacceptable behaviour on his??
If the relationship is worth fighting for then you have to try and overcome these problems together but you cant expect relationships to always be the way you want them to be they are about compromise and trust and you have to be on the same page.
He is maybe hoping if you sleep on it you will feel differently, he could be worn down by your constant mention of this subject. It could be he doesnt want to stop talking to his ex but as i say hard to comment on this.
If it does end you just have to take it one day at a time and come back on here of it helps to chat about how you are feeling x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): i think that u should just talk to him and see wats up.i mean if his talking to his ex while being wit u is messed up i mean if he didnt want u he could of told u.i think that u should just relax and talk to him tomorrow if its over dont cry yourself to sleep just enjoy life.its a sign that his not the one
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