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writes: Okay, this might be a bit of a weird one, but here goes. Ever since I can remember, I have been attracted to women, I very rarely ever see a guy that I like even in the slightest but I've recently found myself drawn in by this one guy. I've known him my whole life (he was my sister's friend when they were little and then they parted ways when he became popular), I've never liked him in this way before but recently I just can't get him out of my head and I can't work out why, but that's not an issue for me as such. My problem is, I know how to approach women, but how do I approach a guy? If he wasn't the type of person that he was then I'd just go for it but he's basically popular, good looking, funny, totally up for anything and his friends are kinda jerks but he's not when you speak to him alone. I recently asked him for some help with a project and he was great and helped me when he was in the middle of finals at uni and everything and he's been really lovely, he chatted about other things while helping me and it was nice to get to know the real him.I'm not particularly confident or anything but I really want to give this a whirl and approach the subject, any advice on how to do this? My own advice is always just to jump in the deep end and go for it, but I don't feel that I can do this with him. Possibly because he is a guy and I'm not used to talking to guys in this way... I don't know. Thank you :) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you, I will give it a whirl and see what happens :)
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (28 March 2014):
 Approach him the same way you do girls. It might not work, but that's not because he's a guy, it's more like an individual thing. As you get better at flirting you will be better at reading what will work with whom. But for now, you just have to try and see. Who knows what might happen.
I can give you some ideas about how I charm guys, but since I have no idea what your guy is like it could possibly backfire if you tried the same things. But anyway, I'd normally just continue what you already started.. ask for more help. Alone, with him. Wear something sexy, have my teeth brushed, smell nice, look good etc. Then I try to make him laugh, makes him relax and lets his guard down. I send flirtatious smiles and make eye contact. Guys never read this as flirtation unless they are extremely skilled at it themselves. In which case, you'd have to tone it down.
Anyway, that tends to do the trick. Smiles and eye contact. Scootch closer when it's natural as in "hey, what do you think about this sentence here" - scootch in, point at it and read it out loud... Let him make the obvious moves. But be aware that most young boys/men only think about sex. So do NOT ever jump into bed with one without a committed and official relationship. Kissing is allowed, but anything involving the privates is not.
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