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writes:Good morning,Me and my partner are expecting a baby in 7 months time. We are going through a rocky patch at the moment, maybe its her hormones I'm not sure.We nearly broke up last night because things are getting in our way. She thinks everytime that we get somewhere something gets in our way like ex's and that. I've deleted all my netlog/facebook/msn etc to prevent rows. I'm not too sure on what to do now because each row now is getting worse and worse.How can we overcome this situation because as I said last night, it wouldn't be fair on the baby if it was brought up with its mum and dad already split up. I understand that she will be a bit moody because of the hormones but how do I get around this because I am quite a open and play around guy and I normally say things that take things to far. She also moaned at me because I played the xbox whilst I was on the phone to her, and she doesnt like me seing my mates because she doesn't trust them, and if I say im going out to shop or something she turns round and say that i'm going to cheat.What should I do, any tips on dealing with hormone problems.Regards
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): You sound like you both have a lot of maturing to do. She doesn't trust you because you have shown her that you cannot be trusted by your own admission.Whatever you do, please put the child first. Even if you are not there, maintain a close and loving relationship with him or her. The first 3 years of a child's life are the most important with the father.Former educator,Best luck
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (8 September 2009):
 Having a baby is a lifechanging event. She is probably very anxious about the whole process of becoming a parent at quite a young age. Lots of women feel stressed when they are pregnant but it is not good for her or the baby. Therefore you have to become the diplomat and reduce the rows by avoiding confrontation. This might mean putting the phone down or leaving the room when things start to heat up. With all the body changes, young women can feel insecure about their relationships and their personal appearance. This might explain why she is worried about you going out with friends etc. The reality is that while there is a 'life after baby arrives', it will be different. Hopefully you will want to take on your responsibilities as Dad, but either way the nappy-bath-sleepness nights-tantrums saga is a fairly inevitable part of parenting in the early years and you will find you haven't got so much energy for xbox or your mates.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (8 September 2009):
 It is not just hormones. I think she expects you to grow up. Playing Xbox while on the phone with her might mean nothing to you but we all know how distracting it can be to play a game and try and have a conversation.
You two need to sit down and talk. About what expectations you both have, of your relationship and of each other.
To be honest I think she is being petty not letting you hang around with your friends, pregnant or not, she needs to understand that you can be a Daddy and have friends. You will just have to learn to prioritize what is more important.
Your GF also have some serious trust issues, which really makes me wonder why the two of you decided to have a child.
You two need to work on a lot of issues.
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reader, teiliababy +, writes (8 September 2009):
 you need to to be with your girlfriend no matter what. it is much better to have the baby come into the world with a mom and dad that will be there for it. try sitting down and talking to her and tell her how you feel on the situation and see her point of view on it. just by listening and understanding to your mate your relationship will get stronger and all your problems will be solved and there will be less arguing at times and you can be free to do what you want and she will have less worries.
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