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writes: hello,im 26 iv been with my girlfriend (22) for a year and a half. Recently i told her i was going away for over a year, and she's coming to see me for a few months at least. Now she wont stop going on about it, i dont want to sound selfish but its starting to wear thin she keep s goin on about how im leaving her and i dont really want her to go over there and im gona cheat on her, at this rate im NOT gona want her to go over , how do i broach the subject coz every time i try she gets upset.. she a very emotional person... I love her very much and i dont want this relationship to be ruined Reply to this Question
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (15 November 2006):
 i think her reaction is expected under the circumstances try putting urself in her shoes and u will understand why she is like this, u are the one leaving and u are excited about ur new found adventure and she knows even though is not forever she will have to say her goodbyes and wish u well, honestly ive bin there and it wasnt easy, instead of feeling angered by this try to set her mind at ease tell her ur plans and what u will do with her when u get back as unvelivable as it may sound to u, she is feeling insecure and its ur job reasure her, she is scared of the unkown who wouldnt be if u have spent the past 18mths together and all of a sudden things have to change and u cant have control over them. take it easy and be gentle dont get annoyed remember she is doing all this in the name of love. strange hey?
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