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writes:I have been with the same man since 2000 although we have known each other for nearly 24 years and had a previous relationship. We both got other children and one between us. My 17 year old has caused me a lot of problems and my boyfriend has been quite active in helping. Lately he has been throwing things back into my face in relation to how my kids are growing up and I don't like it. He is not living with us.We have not been intimate for nearly a year. I am having issues at work and am having my probation extended. I would really like to speak to someone about it but feel so alone as I feel he will throw it back in my face. He always twists things to make it look like my fault. I teach and I hurt my 17 year old over summer and now my work had to be involved. I feel they are using this to extend my probation, trying to put together a whole load of other rubbish.So my personal life is mixing with my private life. I have no one to talk to. Not sure if I trust him any more. He keeps hinting if I want him to come and stay I must call but I don't want to feel used.I have thought about coming out of this relationship and joining a social club.Any advice appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for responding - sorry I meant professional life. I feelI need someone to talk to but I dont think a counsellor is right - more someone for support like a mentor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2009): I don't think you need the complications of a relationship right now. You need to clear your head, and resolve your problems at work. When you say you hurt your 17 year old, you mean you did some thing to physically hurt him/her? And now, it is effecting your profession? Am I getting this straight?
I'm not really sure if you are asking a question about your relationship, or about your problems on the job.
In any case, it sounds like you have your hands full of problems. You would benefit from professional counseling and I highly recommend it!
I am a teacher also, (preschool) and I am fortunate that my private life never got intertwined with my professional life. My life now is quite normal and conservative, but in the past there could have been problems! So, I understand how it could happen. Find a good therapist, and let it all out! That is the only way to make sense of it and rebuild your life! Good Luck!
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