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writes: I'm a 31 year old woman. I live alone and have a career that I love. I'm fairly attractive. I would say I'm an 8 out of 10 on most days. I don't have a desire to get married. I have a healthy fear of getting pregnant or catching a disease. I live in a city with a lot of young single people, but I'm starting to worry that there's something wrong with me. I never seem to end up with people my own age. I try. I've asked men my own age on dates, but they just don't seem to take or they disappear after a couple weeks. At this point, I'm so disillusioned with men in my age bracket. It's like women are sport for them or another species entirely...I have trouble having conversations with them. I often think they're attractive, but I just don't bother getting worked up about it or even trying anymore.I tend to end up attracting and being attracted to men who are significantly older than me. 40s or 50s range.The worst part is that I often get into the relationships knowing on some internal level it can't be forever because of the age. Maybe I think it's safer this way? I don't think I have daddy-issues...but this pattern is starting to weird me out.One of my fears is that men in my age group will discount me for my previous interested in older men. It's not like I am planning on getting married, but I do worry about being judged by my peers. I'm writing in because at the moment, I'm hot and bothered about a 50 year old man I've been spending time with. Part of me wants to change this trend I've had and refuse him just to make a point to myself. Part of me wants to just go for it, since I'm supposedly in my prime and I feel on some level I should enjoy rather than wait for something that never seems to show up?
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reader, eek  +, writes (1 December 2011):
 there is a difference of 20 years between my parents they love each over very much and i think i turned out ok :-)
age is just a number. Happyness is what matters.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2011): The Older Man. *sighs*Granted I have, on the majority, dated younger men but not by a huge age gap - those older men. *fans self*They are confident. They are sexy. They are intelligent. They are patient. They are calm. They are better able to laugh and enjoy the moment. They KNOW how to make a woman comfortable and happy and are not afraid to shower her with attention, affection, respect, love.They know life is short and they have outgrown most of their hang ups.God Bless Them!Not Abnormal. Human.Sorry, what were you asking? Oh yah. Date him. Get to know him. Enjoy the whole, I'm crushing, I'm zooming, I'm alive, I'm sexy of the whole experience of sexual chemistry and sexual tension.You don't have to have sex with someone to date and spend time with them. I say prolong it all and in the process, learn about yourself and how you are with Him.Good luck!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (30 November 2011):
 So what's so wrong with having a preference for an age group? You're over 21.... there are plenty of age gap couples out there. why do you judge yourself? just enjoy it.
and who the heck cares what OTHERS think?
please... I'm 51 and my heart and soul belongs to a 38 yr old man.... and his friends are like "WHAT?!?!?!?"
because he's single never married and here I am on my third divorce... and yet he and I are planning to spend the rest of our lives (i.e. OUR forever) together.
50 is not OLD and the man has a good 25-30 years left in him baring a crisis which could happen to a 30 yr old or 25 year old man....
You need to relax and ENJOY the people you enjoy.. who cares why. if you are happy and they are happy and you guys treat each other well... ENJOY!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (30 November 2011):
 Well you are not doing any thing wrong here, you are an adult. At the end of the day age is just a number and you should stop worrying about people judging you, your love life is your business not anybody else's. If that is who you are attracted to well then go for it.
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