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writes:I posted previously about this attached guy who is flirting with me. So a little update, he isn't with this girl, they are actually separated at the time. So, heres my problem. I really like this guy. We talk everyday, all day. I'm getting really close to this guy. This past weekend, he actually came to see me, and for those people who jump to conclusions, nothing happened between us. We just hung out and talked.Well then, we hugged and we ended up holding each other. Then we kissed. Thats when I asked about the girlfriend and he gave me the whole story. But still a part of me kept saying i had to leave. So I left.Ever since then he says that i make me feel like hes never felt before and he misses me etc. I feel the same way, but I'm a guarded person. My past tells me to be cautious. But I can't deny that I feel something for him. I can't eat, I can barely concentrate. When I get a text or see his number, I feel like I'm in high school again. But all these feelings, I don't know what to feel, and I've been, and he noticed that, I have been sort of pulling away from him. Its only because i don't know what to feel. I want to tell him how i feel, but I have trust issues. I want to trust him, I want to let myself fall in love, but i can't get hurt again. I know deep down i can trust him, but we're so perfect together, the pessimist in me is telling me that somethings gotta go wrong because everything is so right. I don't know what to do! Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2009): Tell him you have trust issues, otherwise he may wonder what is wrong with him. And slow things right down so that you can build trust gradually. Hope it works out for you.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (6 November 2009):
 As long as you go into this with your eyes open it seems worth a shot. Trust has to be won so over time you will come to know how far you may extend trust to this man and in what circumstances. Go in one foot at a time. I hope he makes you very happy.
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