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writes: dear cupid im a 48 yr old woman with 2 broken long term marriages behind me first 11 years second 17 years 2 grown girls one from each marriage i met someone when i was broken up from my second marriage he really made me feel he loved me i dident want to fall in love but he was so convincing i eventually fell for him was with him 3 years then he started to act strange started saying he couldent see me x night carried on untill i confronted him asked what going on he got really nasty saying leave me alone i was so confused /hurt / he ended up saying he dident love me and i needed to get a life because i was asking him what had happened he was so cruel i had a breakdown im on antidepressants and been alone a year dont even go out im still so raw how can anyone be so cruel no trust anymore in me. My life is in shatters how do i move on im so lost still ill sue
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reader, thenabear +, writes (15 November 2006):
 You are one of many if that helps. But I feel your pain dear I do. I,m only 26 years old and in that time I have buried a daughter murdered by her father and a husband who killed himself due to drugs. I had a breakdown a few months later. I spent years finding new ways to hate men for the pain they caused me. The only thing is I found out Men didnt do this to me. Two specific men did. Try to somehow understand that just because you have seen the cruelty and injustice of the world that it is not always like this. there truley are men out there who have no intentions of ever hurting you. Don,t seek them out though you won,t find one that way. Take some time for you alone and make yourself stronger. I suggest two things. A journal. write down how you feel when you feel it. Then go back and read what you felt. It will help you to understand how your emotions fluxuate. Second, see a therapist or find someone to talk to. Get it all out. You have to let go of all that hate. All that distrust. All the pain. If not you will only destroy yourself and any chance at a happy future.
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