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writes: i have a total of 6 penalty points on driving license with another 3 pending.Without my license i will lose my job and my familys only source of income.so i suggested to my partner who is not in employment has a clean licence and is a named driver on my policy could i say she was driving our car. our car has tinted windows and it was 2.30am when i was flashed from behind so there is no way driver could be identified.but i was amazed when she said no way would she do it stating that her license was staying points free.i know i can,t force but we have had a few arguements over it,we have lived together for 20 years and i know if the situation was reversed i would not hesitate in saying i would, so i am now questioning her love for me and were we are heading. any advice out there Reply to this Question
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reader, maxsteel86  +, writes (27 June 2006):
 Busted! Boy you must suck at reading the speedometer or something.
I can understand your wife not wanting to take the fall for you. Best not to force her.
20 years is a heck of a long time. I'm surprised your questioning her love for you this late into the relationship. Ask yourself, do you really think she doesn't love you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2006): You are asking her to commit the crime of perjury, for which you can be jailed. I would like to suggest it is YOU who is at fault, not her.
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reader, Smiler +, writes (26 June 2006):
 Hey there
Well babe you have been married for 20 years so there is no question of whether she loves you or not here cause she obviously does or would you still be together? don't over dramatise this honestly babe, what your asking your partner to do is in fact dishonest when you got the flashed at 2.30am you knew what the consequences would be but still continued to speed regardless that's kinda why these speed traps exist.. i don't blame her for not taking your points cause the law regarding speeding is there for every-ones safety not just your own... but there is another lesson to be learnt here if you can't do the time don't do the crime you know. as for your job and you being the sole earner in your house now you will both have to deal with the consequences of your actions until you get another job :o(
sorry i couldn't be more positive with my advice but that's the truth as i see it...
I hope my advice was of some help to you sweetie :o) good luck ok... If you ever need someone to talk to or just a shoulder to cry on or maybe a little more advice, truly I'm always here for you ok :o)
You Take Care Babe And Good Luck X
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (26 June 2006):
 You are questioning her love for you on the basis of her reluctance to break the law for your benefit. For some women, 'standing by your man' doesn't stretch that far. Maybe she thinks you are a bad driver as you have clocked a fair few points and thinks it is only a matter of time before you get disqualified anyway (regardless of whether she takes the blame for the latest incident or not). I think it is sometimes easier to pin the blame on a partner than to take responsibility yourself - after all you were the one speeding with significant points on your licence.
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