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writes:I am currently in an open relationship and my partner said he wants me have sex with another man while he watches,i am very doubtful about doing this as it may end the good thing we both share.i want to suggest that he and i watch a homemade movie that i have of myself and my ex-boyfriend having sex would this be a good idea as he does not know or even seen my ex-boyfriend so it will be a stranger with whom i am having sex with any thoughts or suggestions welcome
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2011): My husband asked this of me several years ago. At first I was a bit put off but accepted his desire was real. We eventually did it with an old friend of mine and it worked out fine. In fact it was really a lot of fun and spiced up our sex life no end. Just make sure you are both very committed to your own relationship and don't get emotionally involved with the other person. Thhis can be a very slippery slope.On reading your story I agree with maverick 494 in that I don't think you're really into the open relationhsip stuff at all. Pull out the tape and see how he reacts to that one first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2011): I would be honest with him. Tell him how you are worried about how it may affect your relationship and that maybe you can try watching a video first. I think the video thing is a great idea, kind of like testing the waters before you jump in. That way if he or you gets upset, you can just shut it off and talk about it without there being another man present who would complicate things.
A lot of couples successfully have open relationships but to do so, BOTH people have to be comfortable and there has to be a lot of communication.
If you find you really are not ok with it, you both may not work out, which in the end would be best anyway.
Good luck and remember honesty and communication are essential to any relationship platonic or romantic!
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reader, Shortwife  +, writes (19 January 2011):
I wish you were my wife, And had such a tape. if this is something that is on your mind a lot do it. Next time partner brings this up put on the most sexy undies you have and slip tape in for him. It will either cure him or he will give you the best ride of your life. It seems you have gotten by the one and only thing and would be with others. So go for it.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (19 January 2011):
 There is no marraige bed on planet earth that is big enough for more than two...Exced that number and you'll die of a broken heart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 January 2011): It sounds like you don't want an open relationship.
I would not watch a tape of you and your x, but I would show your open relationship partner the door and tell him to find someone else to watch with another man. It may not seem like it now, but because he asked you to do this what you share is not good. It shows a lack of respect imo.
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (19 January 2011):
Well, the whole idea of an open relationship sounds like a bad idea to me to start with. But if you're afraid of the consequences of sleeping with someone else (in essence this means you're not really okay with the whole 'open relationship') I would show the vid you taped of you and your ex because then atleast you didn't cheat.
But really, is this what you want?
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