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writes:i want a baby but dont know how to go about it, i know my boyfriend wants one but he wont talk about it with me, i feel as if our relationship is falling apart because of it, is their any way i can take any kind of tablets to help me get pregnant?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007): i want a baby and im 16, i have experiance with babies at 1, 2 and 3 years old and i also worked in a nursery for a while so i know how to look after children, if people want children at 16-17 then its up to them not up to anyone else to say they cant have kids before, ive even looked into adoption!
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reader, Troys-Sweetie  +, writes (26 October 2007):
 i never said go for it. i said that if you are gonna do it then you should do it right. but if you read my post hunny i tell you that you shouldn't have a baby at your age. you clearly are not ready for a child. just in the way that you are going about this says that in itself. i feel real sorry for you.....
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reader, melodaea +, writes (25 October 2007):
 There are many things that seem so, very wrong about this to me, like the fact he's double your age with a child already and the fact you're only my age, and that you don't seem to know just exactly what you're throwing away. Shame on your "boy"friend. He needs to be finding a partner his own age, not chasing young girls such as yourself, no offence. You're not even legally an adult yet.
I'm 17, 18 in 4 days. I have a boyfriend, it's long term and we fully intend to spend our lives together. We're in no hurry to marry or have kids, but we want it: these will all happen after I'm out of university and when we're both financially able to live together in a house fit to bring a child up in.
I'm in my last year of A levels, taking Art, Music and Psychology. I'm taking a gap year, then studying Music Performance at university so that I'm fully qualified to become a professional opera singer.
I just don't understand it. Don't you want to make something of yourself other than a teenage mother? Don't you want an education? To truly LIVE?
A baby does not stay a baby forever, they will grow up and become an adult.
That's 18-19 years of money and time you could be using to live your own life and go to university, get a decent job, get married, meet new people, see new places...
It saddens me, it really does. You're so young like me, but you're willing to throw everything away for a middle-aged man that won't even discuss it with you. If he won't discuss it properly with you, is he going to be able to support you throughout the pregnancy, and into the childhood?
I don't know, do it if it makes you happy in the long term. Please, please just make sure you're not going to regret it and do it with your partner's FULL support.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (25 October 2007):
 sigh....
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reader, im desperate for a baby +, writes (25 October 2007):
im desperate for a baby is verified as being by the original poster of the question im 17 and my bf is 34 he al ready has a child so i no he will want another one, thanks to the person who told me to go for it if its what i really want, i will start eating healthy and wont drink and i will try and stop smoking .x
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reader, melodaea +, writes (25 October 2007):
I'm going to echo everyone else and say that you are far too young to be even thinking about having a child. I was expecting this question to be asked by someone in their mid twenties.
You're 16 or 17, you're either studying for GCSEs or A-levels if you're still in school. You're telling us you want to throw that all away for a baby that will take all your time and energy? And for a little boy that says he wants to, but won't even talk to you about it? Do you think he'll hang around?
I agree with the first poster: you should be married, or at with someone you're prepared to spend the rest of your life with.
If ultimately you decide to have a child at this age, not only will you throw away your best years to come, you'll become yet another UK "teenage mum" statistic. Don't be in a hurry to grow up as quickly as you can, you're the same age as me and we're only just beginning to start truly living. Enjoy your relationships, go out and get drunk if you like to do so, get an education, travel, meet new people, and for goodness sake, DO NOT HAVE A BABY AT 16-17.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007): I'm sorry but you are way to young to want a baby. I am married and have been trying to get pregnant for 4 years. I come to the conclution that it will happen when it happens. When it is my time God will let me know and same with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007): Sorry, but the nature of your question makes me think you are way too young to be even thinking about having a child. How old are you? Why are you in such a hurry. Once you have a child then that is it, you are committed. And your bf now may not even stay around to help you bring the child up. What about enjoying life before having a child. See the world, have fun, travel, better your education, just bloody live, instead of being tied down to a life of shit, sick and sleepless nights! sorry, to sound so brutal but really it isnt a bed of roses with a little dolly to cuddle.
take care and grow up a bit first.
xx
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (25 October 2007):
Listen, if you want to have a baby but don't know how to go about it...you are too young. If you think your boyfriend wants a baby but the two of you haven't discussed it...you are both too young. If you think there is a magic tablet for pregnancy...you are too young. Plenty of time in your future to consider bringing another person into the world. End of story.
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reader, Troys-Sweetie +, writes (25 October 2007):
if you really want to get pregnant then you should just eat really healthy. don't smoke or drink. take prenatal vitamins and some folic acid. but you shouldn't have a baby if your boyfriend wont even talk to you about it. maybe he is not ready. i can't even see how you can be ready. you are aweful young to want a baby. children are forever and they should have a mother and a father... you really see yourself with this man forever? you should marry before having children.
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