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writes:My partner of two years has A constant bad attitude!Were to begin?So no matter how much I do she's still got reson to be angry!Firstly she complained that I don't do enuf around the house to help so I started doing more, that wasn't enuf so I did more and now while I wasn't getting any work I did everything! Except the laundry and solely stopped doing that because the complaints of how I did it (which never made sense because I do it the same way she does but I took the time to separate the colours and darks as well as un pairing clothes)It got to the point were she only had the laundry to do... You think that improved her mood any?She moans constantly about the kids not doing there jobs, but if I delicately encourage them! Am talking to them with a bad attitude, bare in mind when she tells them (on the ocxassikn she does) she just screams and shouts!Today she has been in bed since 9am and I had the baby all morning, at three when she got up she got really cross that the kitchen was a mess (she tidyed it up and took a whole 5mins doing so) that's just how messy it was.If I use my phone for more than an hour in a day. it's who you texting (but always a joke) and "is that f****** phone never out you f****** hand) and yes you guessed it she's on her phone for at least 4hours a day to the point she has to charge it at least twice a day!If I stand my ground it gets a lot worse and goes on for days!I've developed a stomach ulcer from the constant stress a year ago.Just the other day I mentioned it was playing me up as it often does, She dint even know what I was on about!and as for sex well minimum effort on her side but I'll tend her needs two three times a week (she's always happy after that) but will I get the same oral effort maybe once every few month and for a whole 5 possibly 10 mins if I've made a huge fuss!!!
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reader, alwaysafriend  +, writes (2 February 2012):
Seems to me that you are not getting the respect you should be in your own home. As for a life partner it seems to me that she is not even complimenting as she should be.Saying this, there is a serious problem in your home, family, and relationship.You are getting abused whether you like it or not. You are allowing this to happen to you and need to take ownership of this. Dont just sit back and take the abuse just to keep the peace in the home. Take control and rectify what the real problem is.Take some time out and see what it is that is upsetting or causing your partner to be so resentful and slash out on you. Something truly is not making you both happy. Hence the bad attitude. Shes gained it from build up. As for the ulcer..... well like I said earlier, you are taking abuse to the next level..... even your body is trying to reach out for help and reacting to your needs and emotions. Your complaining about it instead of fixing it. Seems to me your health and relationship is easier for you to blame out on others. Dude, your HEALTH!!!!! really. She cant be doing it all for you. She must have gained this "bad attitude" over your constant ignoring patterns and not communicating this out to improve and make things better.If that alone is not a reason to get things fixed and start NOW then im thinking your on road to alot more problems. Hope the kids are not getting raised to keep quiet, take everything in and ignore serious problems until they cant take it anymore and develope a bad attiude and change their life and give up!!!!!!Hope this wasnt too harsh but seriously, you need to hear the problem. Good Luck!!!!
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters  +, writes (2 February 2012):
 You can work it out, but it is virtually irreperable. I would not even deal with it, as it would take years f counseling.
I would move on or tell her to shut the hell up and make a list of what is wrong, and discuss it with you in a calm manner.
Say it like that. *sometimes* (emphasis on the sometimes), women will start yelling and talking crap that, according to you, makes no sense. They just want to keep going and going and going. If they do, sometimes it is because they want you to stand up for yourself.
If that is not the situation, and you know that for a fact, then end it.
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reader, Dace +, writes (2 February 2012):
Dace is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have a daughter with her!
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reader, StarryEyes101 +, writes (2 February 2012):
 Why are you with her?????
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