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writes:My partner of almost two years has as three and half year old son with his ex wife. They split up when he was one and are divorced. I’ve never met her and I have to go out when she drops off her son. I have a really good relationship with him. My partner has told he he’s going to join them on holiday in Greece later this month and stay in a villa with them and his sister. He said he wants his son to see his parents together and make happy memories. Im I really wrong to be upset by this? He sees them together when they drop off and pick up and he could do days out with them at home. I know their son won’t have any memory of the nuclear family. I’ve offered to take his son on holiday with us both. I’ve asked if we could get a hotel near by so he could see them in the daytime and me. But he flatly refuses. I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable. Please help!
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (17 September 2022):
 The definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over while expecting a different outcome. You keep posting about this. What are you expecting? Someone to magically "fix" it for you? That isn't going to happen.
Read over the answers you have received on previous occasions. Your boyfriend comes with "baggage" in the shape of his son and the mother of the child, who will ALWAYS be around. Your boyfriend CHOOSES to keep you separate from his ex and their child.
Whether anyone else things what you want is reasonable or not is irrelevant. What you need to decide is whether this is something you are going to put up with or whether you want more. Nobody can decide that for you.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (16 September 2022):
 This is the 4th post you have made about this, so I will presume you don't even bother reading the advise you have already been given.
Good luck.
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