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writes:Am I asking too much? I've just completed an intense access course at college after returning at 26, I've also gotten an offer from University and acquired the grades which means I'll begin my degree in September.Im so proud of myself going back and all I wanted was some acknowledgement from my partner but I've been told that I've done nothing to be proud of or anything worth been congratulated over as it's just life. But then in the same sentence my partner wants me to celebrate that they've just been given a job promotion from graduate to a regular place because they say that's more important than anything I've achieved this past year.I am happy to celebrate the job promotion, I celebrated getting the job, the Uni graduation, anything my partner achieves I celebrate and praise them. So am I asking too much for what I've done be acknowledged because I worked extremely hard to get through it and get my place at University.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (20 June 2016):
 Seems he is jealous of you, and does not want you to succeed in life, he wants all the praise and all the attention. Sweetie this is not someone you want to be with. You need a partner who will raise you up not put you down. Well done on your achievements, you know you worked hard and you deserve credit for that, don't allow him to bring you down.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (18 June 2016):
 Green eyed monster is your bf. Not that it helps much but his attitude in it self I would try see it through a different set of eyes. for him to be so much of an arsehole suggest to me that he is very threatened by your abilities, in other words, " Holy shit, she is as good as me, maybe capable of bigger and much better than I..." Oooh arrr how scary for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2016): He wants the upper hand. He wants to be the praised, intelligent, more important person in the relationship. He is used to being praised and now thinks he's more important than you. He was the one with a degree and the greay job blah blah...Are you happy to settle for this? Your accomplishments are second best to his? If so, then carry on. If not you need to make it bloody clear to him life isn't some pissing contest. Remind him how you've supported his achievements and that in a relationship if he cares about you then he cares about what you're working towards. I personally wouldn't tolerate it, life is far too short to waste your time with someone so inconsiderate.Congratulations on your hard work, the degree will be that and then some but it is worth it (I also continued my higher education a bit later than most). Keep up the hard work and don't let some little boy throw his toys out the pram xxx
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (17 June 2016):
 This "sounds" like you and B/F are trying to clap with just one hand. The sound of that is deafening.......
Good luck with your NEW boyfriend.....
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 June 2016):
 He is an ass and he is intimidated by YOUR success, I think. He doesn't like to share the "attention" he HAS to be the "best" of the two of you... Which means he doesn't SEE you as his equal.
Congratulations, you KNOW you did some hard work to get where you are, it wasn't just handed to you. (not saying his promotion was either) However, you GOT yourself back in school at 26 and finished what you set out to accomplish and now you are able to FURTHER that! WTG!!
I'd wish him good luck, dump him and move on.
Having a partner who rather piss on your parade than share BOTH the achievements is NOT a good partner.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (17 June 2016):
 Oh, and congratulations! Your achievement is something to be proud of! Go celebrate without him, and preferable find someone else who knows how to give praise to others when they have worked hard. Seriously, your current partner is a dick head.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (17 June 2016):
... You're dating a douche bag. Tell me, why are you with this guy?
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