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writes: My partner and I have different views about having sex just before a period or just after. This makes me very nervous as my period is very hard to keep track of and he makes me feel dirty and unloved because of this.Sometimes I am at my highest peak at these times and I feel we are both missing out because of his phobia. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2007): IMMATURE women love to call men immature for any reason and this is no different. Like many things in life this boils down to preference. Many men have no problem with sex during a period, but some do. This is not right or wrong. Saying he needs to grow up shows that you and not him are the childish one. If you truly love the person you are with you will accept that he does not like sex during a period just as he has no doubt accepted things about you he does not understand.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (17 October 2005):
 Men are like this sometimes: little mardypants! They can be squeamish about things that are normal to us but you have to understand and respect that. I'm sure, if you were uncomfortable with something, he would not pressure you into it, would he?
Men are always going to be a bit scared of even saying the word 'period', never mind going down there when you're 'on'. Speak to him about it and it may put your mind at ease. I can understand it making you feel a bit dirty, him turning you down because of something you can't control (but wish we could just as much as they do!) but men are just like that. They don't understand and are too scared to ask questions so they just put it to the back of their minds, like everything else they're too scared to confront.
Tell him he makes you feel weird about it and have a proper conversation. Let him know his 'thing' isn't going to drop off just because you were 'on' last week. But at the end of the day, you have to respect his views, as he would yours. Good luck :)
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reader, not again +, writes (17 October 2005):
I was with a guy once who was the same. I suggested we have sex during my period and he was like "ew gross! I'd have to wear like two condomns!" But none of my friends have problems with it with their boys :(. But for some guys it is a thing. I say grow up (to your boy, not you!) If he can't except the very basic and very primal thing of you having a period then he is not mature and I think that men who are afraid/ disgusted by it have other issues too. For myself, I know if that I come up against this ever again with a boy then I am going to say good bye- because to me it is a reflection of something in them and I would rather be with a grown up, open minded lover. Good luck! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 October 2005): Then there is only one thing to do,confront him about what the big deal is.You should only feel dirty if he's making you feel like its dirty.if thats the case then he's obviously not mature enough in his head to handle situations like that,that arent going away any time soon.
Tell him to grow up,i don't know any guy that hasn't done it and said they would never do it again.go from there
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