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writes:Hi,I´ve been dating my bf for a quite long time. The thing is I know all his family already and I get along with them really good, because they are open minded people, funny and cheerful and I feel with them like I can talk to them about everything. But my bf hasn´t met my family yet...I don´t know, I´m just a little bit scared of the situation, because my parents are total opposite from him. They are very closed, strict, I myself have trouble to get along with them because I´m also opposite from them and my boyfriend is like me..so I don´t know what they will talk about when they meet or how will they get along..but i know i should introduce him,because they are still asking me about him and want to meet him..any advices? thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (14 December 2012):
 I think you are worrying about this way too much. If your boyfriend cares about you as much as your post indicates then nothing your parents say will make a difference. Relax.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2012): thank you for answers :)
yes, if i introduce them, it will be only a dinner, not whole weekend..but I´m probably more scared them him..because when someone comes for a visit,my parents always start talk about my bad qualities, like I´m messy etc., and I don´t want my boyfriend to hear things like these about me..I guess I must find some neutral topics, but they have their ways to get off the discussed track..
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (14 December 2012):
Is it possible to keep the intial meeting on the brief side, like say a dinner but not a whole weekend?
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reader, EbonyBlossom  +, writes (14 December 2012):
 You cant keep them from meeting him otherwise they will worry about you and get suspicious as to why they havent been introduced. As long as you warn your boyfriend of how strict they are and he bares this in mind, then you should be fine!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2012): I think it would be good to introduce him to your parents, not for their sake, but for his as well. Wouldn't you feel a little put out if you shared your family with your partner and they never offered the same? I'm assuming your family isn't dysfunctional and abusive...from the way you present it, they just seem a little hard and perhaps judgemental.How honest are you with your parents about your boyfriend? Do you hide things about him from them? If that's the case, stop hiding things and be honest...even if it upsets them.It seems as if your parents might be hurting because you don't share your relationship with your boyfriend with them. I think it might be worth having a heart to heart with them about why you don't want to share. You love your boyfriend and you don't want him to be judged and picked apart by critical people.But I think this is less about your boyfriend meeting your parents, but more about you being honest with your parents. Tell them your fears about introducing him and they'll likely behave just for the opportunity to meet him.Good luck.
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