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writes: Hi everyone :) I am almost 16 years old and recently I admitted to my parents that I liked a guy.. well they flipped out... And I thought it was the right thing to do as I did not want to sneak around them. However, since they flipped I told them it was nothing serious which it isn't serious per say... He and I hang out a lot and he likes me too.. But we're in year 11 and we're both leaving soon. anyways, my parents are liker really old fashion like legit super old fashion... and the thing is it is quite hard for me to communicate with them especially when like society has changed since their schooling days.. and like I am really frustrated at how they treat my brother and I as if we're still like babies... literally BABIES! I am not even allowed to walk around a mall alone... and my mother always insist on walking me to meet my friends, its so flipping embarrassing! Honestly, even younger girls are allowed to walk on their own! and the way they treat my brother is just horrifying. he is 28 this year they treat him like he is 8. My brother and I get super frustrated and like sometimes when I'm on my time of the month I tend to have mood swings, i can't help it, I hope you understand what I mean but like i take my own anger on myself and like maybe my face expression showed it but my mother goes like "why are you so rude?" or wtv... those old fashioned thing... I actually don't know what to do.. and like I got nobody to tell this problem to so I just wanted to let it all out here and hopefully get some advice/opinions/your thoughts on this situation.. pls help!Pls do not say that I am still young etc.. you have no idea what my mother alone has put me through, there is more than just the above... but currently this is my issue. Can't even like a guy =.= I mean yeah sure i'm young but that doesnt mean I dont have FEELINGS right? I mean 16 isn't super young nor old.. but like I've been through sex education lessons and they explained things about feelings at 16, and like they said it is like a start of a practice/experience of love etc... Sorry if this is wordy but im just typing wtv comes into mind now... tq Reply to this Question
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (7 November 2014):
 If your brother is 28 I hope he is not still living at home. As for you, you will soon be in a job or college and able to make your own life in your own flat or bedsit. You just have to tough it out until you can get out of there.
For years parents have had to think about every little danger that can threaten their child. It's hard for them to break the habit. They see threats at every corner.
If they are super overbearing you have my sympathy. All I can tell you is to become independent as soon as you possibly can. take yourself out of their sphere of influence. I did it at 17.
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