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writes:Please help i dont know what to do.. come from a strict greek family who dont accept my boyfriend - even though he is greek too. i have known him for years and are perfect together but my parents wont accept it, they wont even let me see him. i have tried speaking to them and they just give silly reasons like hes too young (8 months younger then me) and that hes disrespectful even though they hardly know him. He has even tried speaking to them but they dont want to know and ignore him. i dont know what to do anymore and i live at home with my parents which is the hardest thing. please help. Reply to this Question
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reader, Jmo  +, writes (2 January 2009):
 The fact that they won't even try to give him a chance, knowing how much he means to you, shows that they don't trust your judgment. The fact that he's even made attempts to talk to them himself (and that takes balls) and they won't listen is just ill-mannered (and they call him disrespectful?). The fact that they refuse to consider your feelings even though you're an adult shows that they're being slightly selfish even if they have good intentions. Listen, there is a point in your life where, even though you love your family, you need to break away and live for yourself. And if you fall flat on your face...... so be it. Who knows, if you start thinking and acting for yourself eventually your parents will start you respecting you as an individual instead of just their little girl. Maybe you should start taking steps to get out on your own. Get your own place. Experience life how you want to. I have the feeling you've been fairly sheltered most of your life, so this might seem scary at first but believe me, it'll be a breath of fresh air. Go to your boy.
-Jmo
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reader, Chloë +, writes (2 January 2009):
One of the reasons your parents don't approve of your boyfriend, may be because they're afraid of losing you the still see you as their child. Try sitting down with your parents and telling how it upsets you and how you feel about the whole situation. Maybe you could try and get your parents to bond with your boyfriend, by doing a fun activity or something like that. Best of luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2009): I'm not saying that there is something wrong with your boyfriend but a lot of the time if your family things a guy is no good they are right. I never listened to my mother when I was younger and I ended up dating these losers who I couldn't see through until the relationship had ended.
You could try to set up a dinner. For example tell your parents to meet you at a restaurant and tell your boyfriend to meet you there as well and see what happens. Have your parents ever met his parents? That might be a good start.
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