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writes:Hey. I'm 15 and MY boyfriend is 18. He's sweet, kind, caring, and I feel really.. protected when I'm around him. Adressing the age gap, I forget about it all the time. I'm free to be myself around him, and vice versa. I'm also very mature for my age, I've been mistaken to be 17 on more than one occasion. I don't feel like I'm missing the 'High School Experience'. If anything, I'm having a better experience with him. I still hang out with my friends, him with his own, and often enough the groups will merge together, regardless that we are diffrent ages. I, too, think age is just a number, that maturity is a bigger factor in the relationship, as in things in common, of which we have many, besides the mutual physical attraction. The car 'issue; isn't really one at all. If anything, it's a benefit, as my parents don't have to constantly drive me around, why would they when he can do it?! I think what Borba is getting at is the fact that she thinks that the 18 year old will try to take advantage of the girl? Completely untrue, at least in my case. He always asks if he can do something, and then throught out he's very concerened, saying he'll stop if I'm not ready. He's really considerate, and doesn't want to hurt me, mentaly or physicaly. I think everyone is conforming to the stereotype of older guys only want one thing.. Thats true for my guy. But its not sex.. its me(: The thing is, my parents hate him, They think he's terrible. They've met him, but they don't approve. Any ideas on how to sway them? Reply to this Question
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (16 April 2009):
 Has your parents met your bf's parents at all?
All parents will automatically dislike any bf as they want to protect their own child and it wouldn't matter if it was Prince William who walked through the door or someone famous and very boy next door type. They will always see the worst in anyone who comes close to their child. Unfortunately they still see you as a child and a minor in the eyes of the law when it comes to sex.
I know the age of consent is different in the US to the UK but I think spending time with them and your bf instead of perhaps sloping off so that it shows you are comfortable being around them and don't try to shove your affections in their faces. Him not kissing your face off before he leaves you for the evening is a good idea.
Perhaps suggest a meal together, home cooked meal and you suggest it to your mum, help her and show her you are being responsible.
Or perhaps suggest going bowling together or something along those lines. Show them that your bf is not just interested in spending time alone with you but that he wants to get to know them and then they may trust him more than they do right now.
Keep us posted eh!
BFN
Country Woman
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