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writes:I'm going to make the question brief, followed by some background information which you may choose or choose not to read - I think it would be useful to read all of it though lol. Is there a problem with an 18 year-old girl dating a 24 year-old man? my family would certainly disapprove, but it's my life not theirs! I genuinely think me and him would be good together.I've always been attracted to older guys, I met this one at a party last year. We hit it off straight away, danced through the night and kissed (he is rather forward if i'm quite honest - but i see this as a positive thing because i'm very shy when it comes to guys, and can never make the first move, therefore i often miss out on great opportunities in romance).Ever since this 'amazing' night, we've been chatting online alot and texting each other, as a result I have become increasingly infatuated with the guy. We reunited at my 18th party recently, to which the same occurance happened as when we met at the first party - unfortunately, people (including my parents!) saw us kissing passionately on the dancefloor. I was also very drunk at the time and did not realise we had an audience! To be concise, this caused some trouble at my party and a bit of upset to my family. They claimed he was taking advantage and is far too old for me, insisting that I steer clear of him. Hearing this, broke my heart! I couldn't exactly stick up for him, as it would only turn into an argument. I decided to just accept their views maturely and not cause conflict.He sweetly asked me on a date last week and because of my parents opinion of him, I was forced to turn him down but of course I explained the reasoning and made sure he knew I was on his side. He told me he felt bad for the way he made my family feel and apologised; my heart just sank because I know he meant no harm and i definately did not expect an apology from him. I really think we deserve to give it a shot. I want to give love a real chance! my parents will never understand, they have already forbid me to date this man. So what do I do?
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reader, ForeverDawn  +, writes (4 January 2010):
 wow I can relate with you a lot just like you I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 24 the only difference being I have known him for half of my life we dated for about 4 years and back in 2008 we broke up mainly because of my mother she forbid me to see him and all the hiding and sneaking around took a toll on our relationship I realized is my life and I can't let my mother live it for me so about 5 months ago we got back together My mother barely talks to me ever since she found out But I am now an adult and there for I can make my own choices Basically what I am trying to tell you is that if you feel this is the guy for you go for it!!! Good Luck
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reader, SoulTiger09 +, writes (4 January 2010):
Do NOT let your parents push you around. The last thing you need is for them to control your life for you. Don't listen to them, and do whatever you want; just be safe while you do it. :)
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