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writes: my parents dont trust me... me and my girlfriend have been goin gout for a yearshe's 15 and im 14.,, and yes we're a very mature couple for our age//...but we wont do anything we are not ready for....whenever were alone watching tv in the basement, my mom alwasy comes along to supeervise...we're gonna do anything, even if we were to ahve sex (wich we wont) it wouldn tbe at my moms house even when me and my girlfriend go on a date...my mom makes one of my older brothers (18) come along and watch what we do..it's so frustrating..im neve rreally alone with her..and what if i want to amke out, im not gonna do it in front of my mom or one of my brothers....so it's hard when you're beying watched what should i do?? Reply to this Question
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reader, MissKin  +, writes (10 April 2009):
 She's not being stupid. she's being careful. you have to understand it from your mothers perspective. she's worried about the both of you and is trying to protect you frm the fate that SO many young children have gotten themselves into. early pregnancy. deseases yadda yadda. etc.
Talk to your mum. if you're so mature - bring it up to her. but don't FIGHT. if she refuses to give in, just allow it - know that she's got the best intentions. she knows what kids can be like.
Ask her for some breaks though. Like a date in private, but respect her rules - show that she can trust you and DONT do anything she wouldn't want you to do okay? that's the best way to get what you really want - which is some respect, some privacy, and to not be treated like a child (but to be fair, you are a child. sorry lovey. its true.) you can't expect her not to walk in on your in the basement - the more it agrivates you, the more she'll think there's a need to do it! so don't let it get to you, and kiss and cuddle and what not, it's not embarassing to do that infront of your parents. and let your mum check up on you in the basement.
gud luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): I may be employing semantics, but no kid your age is 'mature for their age'. Mature is something that comes with age and experience. There's no real 'cutoff point' but the word 'mature' conjures up images of someone aged about 40-plus.Your mother is looking out for you and you should be grateful for that. At your age the little head rules the big head and your mother is only too well aware of how you could bugger up the rest of your life for one stupid mistake.I like your mother's attitude. If you've any sense at all, or are as mature as you say, you'll accept what she's doing as a protectionist stance. All power to your mother.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhhhaaa funny..eyes wide open...n
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (9 April 2009):
 You do exactly what your mother says for you to do. Her roof her rules. I love to hear about mothers just like yours, gives me a warm feeling.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009): 1) EVERY kid at your age thinks they are "mature for their age". Seriously, all of them.
2) Your mom is not being stupid, she loves you and doesn't want to see you ruin your life. Be grateful.
3) If you're so impatient, wait a few years till you are older
4) The more mature you really behave, the more your mom will trust you alone. Just give her what she wants to be sure about things, and she will trust you more, easy.
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (9 April 2009):
 Have you spoke to your mum? She is being stupid here! Tell her to trust you, tell her that she has raised you well! X
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