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writes: I'm in a casual relationship with this girl. To be blunt all we really do is meet up and have sex every few days. What I really don't get is that people dissaprove of it, especially my parents. They say it's not right and that I should be in a proper relationship with her, or not at all. They constantly have a go at me whenever I go round to see her but there is no problem at all, we're only having fun!I'm not looking for a serious relationship and neither is she, we both know what we want and we get it. We always use condoms and she's not underage or anything, we're both 18. So there's nothing wrong with it is there? How can I get them off my back?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (24 May 2010):
 Sex and love are strong emotional forces and when unleashed , you may be swept away by the strong tides.
You may think it is just fun and nothing else. I am sure your parents are well aware of those pitfalls in a FWB or FF relationship.
You may not find any problems in the present but the future is another thing. It will come back to haunt you .
When one of you gets too attached and begins wanting something more. If the other person feels differently, they will get hurt.
In addition, sometimes one of the parties may become jealous if the other person starts dating someone else seriously.
It can be very difficult to separate emotions from sex especially for a woman.
You cannot change your parents perspective. They come from an older generation.
You either give her up or you learn it the hard way.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (24 May 2010):
 Stop telling them intimate details about your sex life... My parents have no clue what I do with whom in the bedroom, and naturally have never pestered me about whom I sleep with.
Watch what you say to your parents! Tell them a white lie and say you are thinking about a proper relationship, you are in love, but it is confusing etc etc.
What you do as a legal adult is up to you. Really. But parents will be parents and showing them that you have every right to do as you please wont prevent them from trying to guide you in life. They will always be on your back, guiding you, showing you what they think is best for you, and perhaps even whats best for this girl.
If you really want them off your back, move out. I suspect you still live with them, otherwise how would they know when you meet up with this girl? And, not to be rude, but as long as you live under their roof and don't pay rent, they have every right to demand that you at least don't have sex with her in THIER house. Show them some respect when you know they don't approve. Pushing this up in their faces will only make matters worse.
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reader, KitKite87  +, writes (24 May 2010):
Keep it a secret from them. Most people don't go around announcing that they're humping somebody nsa, especially to their parents. It's private and they don't need to know about it, like they don't need to know about the crap you took yesterday. Obviously your parents prefer for you to find love. If they do listen to you at all, which is usually unlikely, tell them you are too young to settle down, don't know what you want, and are preparing yourself for serious relationships later. Et cetera.
Older people usually realize sex with love is better than masturbating in someone, fyi. But whatever lifts your luggage.
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (24 May 2010):
 well those around you probably know the usual outcomes of a casual sexual relationship. For one, it usually ends badly. For two, one person usually gets attached or wants more after awhile. What happens if she or you changes your mind and you want more and the other doesn't?
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