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writes:Hi everyone,I'm 24 and my girlfriend is 37. I'm into her (I'm not sure I love her though) but my parents and family isn't big time. They're also not thrilled about her having a 15 year old son. They keep telling me I'm being suckered in cause she's much smarter than me and what she really wants is to move to the states therefore I would be able to help her out a lot in this matter. I do see she really cares for me, our conversations are always fun and I would suspect her getting tired of them sooner or later, but no - it's been almost a year and we've still got that groove from day one. I also hear comments that she's finally thinking about settling down and since I've been so cool with her she can trust me.Now the things I'm hearing from my family sound possible. I've noticed that she does have the tendency to invoke sympathy so I feel sorry for her. But then again, she likes sharing stuff with me. I don't want to come across as being analytical because relationships shouldn't be that way. In a way I also see that I'm not fully in love with her. It's just that I don't want to break it off and then find out she really was genuine. I'm also losing patience listening to what my parents have to say that's why I'm referring to this forum. Any help greatly appreciated!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): i have the same problem .....i am 23 and my girl is 25..... i am african and my dad is bitching about that.... but imagined what my life would be without this girl.... i decided i have to remain happy instead of trying to please him............... good luck man
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reader, whiskey_cowgurl  +, writes (30 May 2007):
it's your life to live, not your parents...
if you really love this woman, then for for it, no matter what anyone says. say you listen to you parents, and you and her break up... chances are your going to be extremely unhappy (it sounds like you love her very much)... and for what? to make your parents happier? then say you decided to listen to your heart, ultimatly you are going to be happy... and even if your parents arn't happy with the idea of it, eventually they will come around because they'll want you to be happy, and after awhile they may just see her the way you do.
It all comes down to life it too short to live it pleasing everyone else but yourself...
best of luck, whiskey
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reader, DV1 +, writes (30 May 2007):
 If you two love each other, it's your business. If you're prepared to take on father responsibilities, go for it.
DV1
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reader, candy00s  +, writes (29 May 2007):
 Stop listening to other people and think about what you want.
You must know in your mind whether you want to be with her, imagine your life without her in it? can you do that?
If you can then leave - but make sure you are making the right decision as she will be hurt and you probably wont get a second chance.
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