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anonymous
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for one year and a half. I moved in with him as of September 1, 2006. I am newly divorced and he is legally separated. His wife left him August 31, 2005. He has told me he is still healing and that I need to be patient with him and his feelings towards me. I am at a time in my life where I just want to move on, be happy and have a totally commited relationship with this man. He can't commit to me 100% as he is only "85% healed" from the previous relationship. Is this fair to me?
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reader, stina  +, writes (30 May 2007):
 Hi Anonymous,
I think that it's more than fair that he let you know how he actually feels. Would you really want to be in a relationship with someone who just "said" that he was going to commit to you, when emotionally he was not ready?
I think that you two probably got together before he was ready, but if you're unwilling to stay with him until he's completely over his ex (which could take a really long time, depending on their relationship), then I think it's time for you to find someone else. To me, it's obvious that you are both at different levels - where you want the relationship to go. You have to remember that he's not even divorced yet, so I'm not sure what kind of committment you're looking for. You two already live together, so it's obvious he cares for you a great deal.
The decision is up to you - are you willing to wait for him or do you want to find someone who can commit to you right now and right away?
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2007): hey there...yea.. i think you should give him space for now...but if it gose for long then i think you guyz should sit down and realli talk about things...otherwise its all going goood *_*
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