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writes: I am a 20 year old girl, with a boyfriend of the same age. We've been seeing each other for a little over a year now..Thing is.. i really really like this guy, and we are very happy together. However, we are of different race, religion, and culture, and this is proving to be a distresing part of our relationship.His mom likes me, and is very friendly towards me. However, my parents are very against this relationship, and although they dont tell me in my face that they disapprove, i can tell that they are not happy from their body language, their disinterest in him, and their nonchalence whenever i go out with him. Also, they always say that their intuition is right, and they can tell when 2 people are incompatible.I really like this guy, but i also dont want my parents to be upset. Please advise. P.S: I am Chinese.. hence the rather strict parents.. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so much for your responses! :D
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (15 April 2006):
 Dazzerg is right, it is your life and your happiness and your decision.
Your life to be with who you want as long as it is for the right reasons like love and although you respect your parents it is ultimatly not there decision who you see and who you dont.
Stay strong and show your parents that you respect them but on this point you feel strongly and if in time it does not work out then at least you had given it your best shot.
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (15 April 2006):
 It's a cliche but ultimately it is your life. If you really like and want to be with this guy then the trade-off may well be that your parents are upset even for a time. However, if they see that he is making you happy and treating you well they may, in time, lie down there opposition to this relationship.
Maybe if you can subtly illustrate this by telling them about nice things he does for you and examples of when he is kind to you. It could simply be that they are being a little over-protective of you. The good news for you is that there opposition does not seem to be outright since they havent gone as far as restricting you in any way.
Do you feel it would help if they met your partner? Maybe seeing him and being impressed by him they will change their views. I think you have to be prepared to win your parents over gently and steadily, ultimately if they see your feelings for each other are true and that he makes you happy and treats you right that will overcome their hostility to the relationship.
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