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writes:Hey everyoneim 15,i am dating this boy and he is a year younger than me(14)and well he wants to see me atleast 2 or 3 times a week because he lives like 15 mins away by carbut the thing is my parents are very over protected and they don't let me go out alot of places..and so if i say that im going to a friend's house,sometimes they would say no.But i really love this boy and he loves me back as well.i dont want to lie to my parents but sometimes i think that it is the only way.i tried telling them about him and i..but they didnt like the idea and said i was too youngbut if you really really love someone..and u just wanna spend time with them..how can that be wrong?i wish i could just say mom,dad im going to my friends house and they just say ok be back in 2 hours or whatever..but my parents dont trust me and they are strict and over protective...how can i see my boyfriend more often?...other than after school before i go home Reply to this Question
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (17 May 2008):
 Dont lie as it will make them more over protective as you will have compleely lost their respect and trust. Would they allow him to come to your house once or twice a week and you to go to his. Get your parents to meet his or phone them this might make them more relaxed about him if they now his background etc. Once they get to know him properely they might relax a bit more. At the end of the day to them you are still a little girl but it will get better as you get older x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2008): This is a very difficult question, but I'll try to help as much as I can. First can I give you one word of advice.
LYING IS A VERY BAD IDEA.
Not good, not good at all. Your 15 years old and you got very protective parents? If the find out you've lied to them the next time you get out of the house will be for your wedding. Liars get caught and liars get punished, that's just one of the facts of life. It comes from the same rule book that says parents that pay the bills get to decide who their children can see. Sorry but true.
Now back to this boy, (your young toy boy) You wanna be with him. I can understand that. He only lives 15 minutes away so want's to see you more often. Got no problem with that. But your not my daughter. Your parents don't thinks it's good for you to be dating and that's the end of that.
Now dating and friendship are two different things. Can't you two arrange to do activities together that no parent could mind. Join the church and help out. You can see each other and help out at the same time. Join greenpeace together and save the wales, while your flirting. Computer club, chess club. Any place where you can be together for a sensible reason so your parents can't complain.
Now if your young lad dosen't understand this parent thing or keeps making noise about seeing you, well he'll just add stress to your life, so he's not the guy for you. Behave yourself, tell the truth and live with honor, and then there'll be no reason for your parents not to trust you.
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